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I'm not sure where you live but mortgages where I live are 20 years. Graduating at 14 does not give one a paid-off mortgage-free home at 20, even if they were t

I'm not sure where you live but mortgages where I live are 20 years. Graduating at 14 does not give one a paid-off mortgage-free home at 20, even if they were to be able to find a job immediately upon graduating. On another very cultural point, I know of exactly zero women with my education level who would have been willing to give birth before 20, even if they had been out of college by then -- they got to that education level by being ambitious and for ambitious women career takes precedence over babies. (There were also practical issues. If you start college at 15 there are very little safe ways for you to experiment with sex before college. All women I know want to have sex recreationally for like, several years before having a baby, and with different men than the eventual baby daddy too.) I grant that it's in a city -- I think the whole career/baby conundrum is a lot less of a problem in rural or religious areas. Still.

burfog 8y ago
In most cases, you aren't bound to that payment schedule. I paid off a 30-year mortgage in 8 years, using one income, and I wasn't trying all that hard. Being a city person, you might not realize that the rest of us are getting houses for 10% of what you are probably paying. There is cultural variation for sure. The thought of starting with a non-virgin is revolting to me. BTW, that should go for both sexes, though obviously one is impossible to scrub clean. (tiny cleaning brushes for Fallopian tubes?) Both sexes should hold spouses to this standard. If the other person wants to violate that standard, run! They've done it before. I seriously feel that way, and I'm not even religious or rural. I'm married, and both of us were virgins. You shouldn't experiment with sex. Before college is fine, assuming you are married before college. I'm sure you hate and reject this idea, but you really devalue yourself if you sleep around. It's how you get herpes and more. Most people get herpes, but it is NOT an inevitable part of life. Your possible choices for a spouse are reduced if you've been around. If you do discover a nice spouse, but you remember getting better sex from a different person, how will you be happy? You'll forever be fantasizing about that other person. You'll probably be tempted to cheat. I'm sure you think my attitude is strange, but consider this: I've been married for almost two decades. My parents, with a similar attitude, have been married for over four decades. Their parents were married longer, until death. There have not been any broken homes, custody fights, half-sibling surprises, or any similar misery. BTW, the women all got above-average education for their era, but didn't use it except to attract husbands. This is a way of life that works, free of the fights and other drama that is so common today. Children grow up safe and secure, and then provide likewise for their own children.
souprock 8y ago
Melbourne, FL. The cheapest house on the market is going for $30,000 and the median is going for $157,100. Throwing some randomly into a calculator, it looks like $50 to $100 per square foot for real suburban-type homes. Prices are the same in Palm Bay, just to the south of Melbourne. Yes, there are jobs. There are several large defense contractors in the area, along with many startups doing things related to software security. I usually post one to the "Who is Hiring?" thread. So get the job, live cheaply, and buy a house. Heck, buy it in cash. Two years of a single income will do that if your tastes are not extravagant.

burfog 8y ago

In most cases, you aren't bound to that payment schedule. I paid off a 30-year mortgage in 8 years, using one income, and I wasn't trying all that hard. Being a city person, you might not realize that the rest of us are getting houses for 10% of what you are probably paying. There is cultural variation for sure. The thought of starting with a non-virgin is revolting to me. BTW, that should go for both sexes, though obviously one is impossible to scrub clean. (tiny cleaning brushes for Fallopian tubes?) Both sexes should hold spouses to this standard. If the other person wants to violate that standard, run! They've done it before. I seriously feel that way, and I'm not even religious or rural. I'm married, and both of us were virgins. You shouldn't experiment with sex. Before college is fine, assuming you are married before college. I'm sure you hate and reject this idea, but you really devalue yourself if you sleep around. It's how you get herpes and more. Most people get herpes, but it is NOT an inevitable part of life. Your possible choices for a spouse are reduced if you've been around. If you do discover a nice spouse, but you remember getting better sex from a different person, how will you be happy? You'll forever be fantasizing about that other person. You'll probably be tempted to cheat. I'm sure you think my attitude is strange, but consider this: I've been married for almost two decades. My parents, with a similar attitude, have been married for over four decades. Their parents were married longer, until death. There have not been any broken homes, custody fights, half-sibling surprises, or any similar misery. BTW, the women all got above-average education for their era, but didn't use it except to attract husbands. This is a way of life that works, free of the fights and other drama that is so common today. Children grow up safe and secure, and then provide likewise for their own children.

souprock 8y ago

Melbourne, FL. The cheapest house on the market is going for $30,000 and the median is going for $157,100. Throwing some randomly into a calculator, it looks like $50 to $100 per square foot for real suburban-type homes. Prices are the same in Palm Bay, just to the south of Melbourne. Yes, there are jobs. There are several large defense contractors in the area, along with many startups doing things related to software security. I usually post one to the "Who is Hiring?" thread. So get the job, live cheaply, and buy a house. Heck, buy it in cash. Two years of a single income will do that if your tastes are not extravagant.