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The article speaks about feeling judged, not actually being judged. I am quite certain that no one at these conferences (or at social networking events of any k
by andonisus 8y ago
The article speaks about feeling judged, not actually being judged. I am quite certain that no one at these conferences (or at social networking events of any kind which involved alcohol) cares if someone is abstaining from alcohol.
- eesmith 8y agoHow are you certain that no one at these conferences makes these sorts of judgments? One of the examples from the article is: > When she was a graduate student looking for a job, Medici was especially aware of the conclusions that people might draw from her choices. She's married, and she didn't want people to assume that because she was without a drink, she might be pregnant. A mentor advised her that people could make that assumption, and passed along the club-soda trick. I can how someone might infer that if a woman is not drinking then she is likely pregnant. I also know that pregnancy discrimination in hiring is a thing - illegal in the US, but still a real thing. This seems like the sort of judgement that you says doesn't happen. I can't see how you can be sure that no one at academic conferences makes this sort of inference.
- PhasmaFelis 8y agoThe world is really a much simpler place if you assume that any concerns you haven't personally experienced are imaginary.
- andonisus 8y agoIt's not the the concerns are imaginary, it's that they are inconsequential. Everyone will have an opinion about everything they interact with; this is the human experience. You can't control the fact that others will form opinions about you and your actions, but you can control how you react regarding this.