Agreed. They are very comfortable and it's super easy to feel good about existing in the confined parameters. OPs attitude sounds a lot like "we've stopped tryi

Agreed. They are very comfortable and it's super easy to feel good about existing in the confined parameters. OPs attitude sounds a lot like "we've stopped trying and decided to let the games win". Rallying against the 'opposite' (opposite sex, or perceived successful men, 'jocks') seems like a defense mechanism that the group reinforces so that they don't have to face their own circumstance / fears. I've fallen into it a bit in the past and it's easy to get bitter and isolated. I think the only way out is to turn off the games and try something different.