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I'm not sure, there's definitely people (I mean, there must be others than myself ;)), mostly introverted, that shine best when they know that the relationship

by bpizzi 8y ago

I'm not sure, there's definitely people (I mean, there must be others than myself ;)), mostly introverted, that shine best when they know that the relationship is based on pure facts and no unforeseeable tension may arise from hurt egos. That being said, maybe we're such a minority that virtually no human group would be comprised of only that kind of mind (even in couples).

blauditore 8y ago
> pure facts and no unforeseeable tension I cannot imagine a non-trivial environment where everything is deterministic and there's no room for argumentation. For example, when deciding on the color of a new logo, or what to do for a company trip, there's no obvious canonically true solution. Therefore, opinions and personal preferences come into play, which is a source of conflict.
- bpizzi 8y ago
  > For example, when deciding on the color of a new logo, or what to do for a company trip, there's no obvious canonically true solution. Therefore, opinions and personal preferences come into play, which is a source of conflict. Ha, those are great examples where I will absolutely refuse to give my opinion :) "What's your idea on the new logo color?", "I don't care, I'll be ok with whatever you choose", "No really, tell me", "No really, I don't want to think about it", "I don't get it", "I know you don't". Quit harsh, I conceed :) Related: bikeshedding and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_triviality https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_triviality
  - pjc50 8y ago
    Quite an annoying approach in itself. The worst is people doing that when deciding where to eat.
indigochill 8y ago
I was in a band for a while, and there can be tension without it needing to derive from egos. I would say all of us were ego-free and I can't remember us ever having any interpersonal conflicts. But we did have different musical inspirations. The lead singer/songwriter/rhythm guitarist loved folk rock, like Bob Dylan. I was more into metal and electronic music. The drummer was a devout punk. Our bassist swore by classic rock. In addition, I've always been of a very analytical mind, whereas our songwriter has always had a very artistic temperament. We philosophically disagreed about whether music was primarily art or science. But he had the spark of artistic inspiration to write the songs, and I had the music theory backing to write the accompaniment, so that philosophical tension actually made the whole thing work. Then we split to pursue our respective goals and neither of us have done much musically since then.

by bpizzi 8y ago

blauditore 8y ago

> pure facts and no unforeseeable tension I cannot imagine a non-trivial environment where everything is deterministic and there's no room for argumentation. For example, when deciding on the color of a new logo, or what to do for a company trip, there's no obvious canonically true solution. Therefore, opinions and personal preferences come into play, which is a source of conflict.

bpizzi 8y ago
> For example, when deciding on the color of a new logo, or what to do for a company trip, there's no obvious canonically true solution. Therefore, opinions and personal preferences come into play, which is a source of conflict. Ha, those are great examples where I will absolutely refuse to give my opinion :) "What's your idea on the new logo color?", "I don't care, I'll be ok with whatever you choose", "No really, tell me", "No really, I don't want to think about it", "I don't get it", "I know you don't". Quit harsh, I conceed :) Related: bikeshedding and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_triviality https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_triviality
- pjc50 8y ago
  Quite an annoying approach in itself. The worst is people doing that when deciding where to eat.

indigochill 8y ago

I was in a band for a while, and there can be tension without it needing to derive from egos. I would say all of us were ego-free and I can't remember us ever having any interpersonal conflicts. But we did have different musical inspirations. The lead singer/songwriter/rhythm guitarist loved folk rock, like Bob Dylan. I was more into metal and electronic music. The drummer was a devout punk. Our bassist swore by classic rock. In addition, I've always been of a very analytical mind, whereas our songwriter has always had a very artistic temperament. We philosophically disagreed about whether music was primarily art or science. But he had the spark of artistic inspiration to write the songs, and I had the music theory backing to write the accompaniment, so that philosophical tension actually made the whole thing work. Then we split to pursue our respective goals and neither of us have done much musically since then.