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Every child is doomed to repeat the mistake of doing the opposite of the mistake they perceive their parents made with them.
by perfmode 8y ago
Every child is doomed to repeat the mistake of doing the opposite of the mistake they perceive their parents made with them.
- onemorethrowa 8y agoSo I'm following a more constructive approach: I take what I think went very well from how my parents raised me (which may not even have been conscious on their part). That the resulting parenting is in some ways almost the polar opposite of OP's approach does not mean that it's the better answer in general, though, but given that my child is likely to have inherited a significant share of my traits, it's probably the better answer for them.
- frereubu 8y agoOr, as Philip Larkin jokingly had it: They f__k you up, your mum and dad / They may not mean to, but they do / They fill you with the faults they had / And add some extra, just for you. But they were f__ked up in their turn / By fools in old-style hats and coats, / Who half the time were soppy-stern / And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. / It deepens like a coastal shelf. / Get out as early as you can, / And don’t have any kids yourself.
- em-bee 8y agoalternatively paraphrasing someone else: there is no point in properly raising kids. they just copy their parents anyways