You're right to have comments, and my only gripe was with the tone. Having been on both sides of it now, parenting is just really hard. And there really is a to

You're right to have comments, and my only gripe was with the tone. Having been on both sides of it now, parenting is just really hard. And there really is a ton of social pressure to get it right, like no other pressure you've had. Get your job wrong, the worst case is you get fired (for most people without life or death jobs). Get parenting wrong and they literally take away your child forever. I'm sorry for making assumptions. It seemed pretty clear to me that you haven't been on the other side of this, and there would be nothing wrong with that anyway. Different phase of life and all that. And in sorry for what you've been through. Being abused by a parent, who should be your source of all things good and loving, is a terrible thing.