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Your frustration is understandable, but I hope you don’t give up. The history books are full of people who’ve made invaluable contributions despite facing any m

by User23 8y ago

Your frustration is understandable, but I hope you don’t give up. The history books are full of people who’ve made invaluable contributions despite facing any manner of social challenges. It’s worth noting that trading on sex appeal for money and power is an avenue plenty of men pursue as well. We are a sexually reproducing species so it’s always going to be of major importance thanks to selection pressure.

DoreenMichele 8y ago
Sure. In a nutshell, the problem is that a successful man is sexually attractive because of his success and success can make an otherwise not attractive man sexually viable. This seems to not be true for women. Her career success is often seen as a deterrent to a personal life. Also, being female seems to make it difficult to network because most successful business people are heterosexual males. So that makes it complicated and challenging. Networking between two hetero men is obviously networking. Networking between a hetero man and a hetero woman is much less clear and readily leads to unfortunate misunderstandings, even in a best case scenario where he's not actually some troglodyte who sees women as nothing but sex objects.
- User23 8y ago
  It’s women’s mate preferences that determine which men are sexually attractive, so that one can’t be laid on men. For the flip side you’re of course correct, because men are primarily attracted to fertility proxies. Nobody can change either of these facts though, so one has to work within those constraints. Similarly sex will always complicate interactions between the sexes. Our society is observably wrestling with that now and I don’t know how it will turn out. What I do know though is that any sustainable arrangement has to be in concordance with reality. However, in news you may find encouraging, women are achieving overwhelming success in at least one field where they aren’t trading on sex appeal: https://www.politico.com/story/2019/01/02/how-women-took-over-the-military-industrial-complex-1049860 https://www.politico.com/story/2019/01/02/how-women-took-ove...
  - DoreenMichele 8y ago
    It’s women’s mate preferences that determine which men are sexually attractive, so that one can’t be laid on men. I wasn't blaming men for anything at all at any point.

by User23 8y ago

DoreenMichele 8y ago

Sure. In a nutshell, the problem is that a successful man is sexually attractive because of his success and success can make an otherwise not attractive man sexually viable. This seems to not be true for women. Her career success is often seen as a deterrent to a personal life. Also, being female seems to make it difficult to network because most successful business people are heterosexual males. So that makes it complicated and challenging. Networking between two hetero men is obviously networking. Networking between a hetero man and a hetero woman is much less clear and readily leads to unfortunate misunderstandings, even in a best case scenario where he's not actually some troglodyte who sees women as nothing but sex objects.

User23 8y ago
It’s women’s mate preferences that determine which men are sexually attractive, so that one can’t be laid on men. For the flip side you’re of course correct, because men are primarily attracted to fertility proxies. Nobody can change either of these facts though, so one has to work within those constraints. Similarly sex will always complicate interactions between the sexes. Our society is observably wrestling with that now and I don’t know how it will turn out. What I do know though is that any sustainable arrangement has to be in concordance with reality. However, in news you may find encouraging, women are achieving overwhelming success in at least one field where they aren’t trading on sex appeal: https://www.politico.com/story/2019/01/02/how-women-took-over-the-military-industrial-complex-1049860 https://www.politico.com/story/2019/01/02/how-women-took-ove...
- DoreenMichele 8y ago
  It’s women’s mate preferences that determine which men are sexually attractive, so that one can’t be laid on men. I wasn't blaming men for anything at all at any point.