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It's a good question, and one that I probably asked him on many multiple occasions. His answer was always multi-pronged, but the main points were approximately
by adanto6840 8y ago
It's a good question, and one that I probably asked him on many multiple occasions. His answer was always multi-pronged, but the main points were approximately (in order of importance, as I perceived it):
1) Law = Higher stress career.
2) Office vs Outdoors; he loved being outdoors every day, especially loved talking to people -- most everyone on his route knew him by name and he strongly believed in [perhaps incorrectly, as things have changed dramatically] in mail carriers being very 'customer/service oriented'. He loved talking to people, he'd bring mail up to elder-aged peoples homes every day and talk to them for a few minutes, etc. Perhaps a bit Mayberry-esque, even. ;)
3) Moral reasons; a general dislike of bureaucracy (though plenty of that at USPS, and more towards end of his career, which we heard about over dinner ~nightly!); generally a preference for meritocracy (his 'sorting speed' was N times faster than the 'baseline', he would tell us); an extreme disdain for "schmoozing" for lack of a better term.
He never even took the bar exam, which actually surprises me a bit even today. As a young teenager I found it borderline insane, selfishly of course -- I can remember thinking "we'd be in the nicer neighborhood if Dad would just go be a lawyer!", and I remember wondering if my grandfather was upset by it but I was a bit surprised to not really get the impression that it was an issue.
He also had owned & sold a bar in his 30s, had the only home we lived in my entire life paid off in his ~50s, the USPS insurance & pension plans were great, and we lived quite frugally -- so he was comfortable, he carried our own route so he was home 2x each day, the rotating schedule was nice to get Saturdays off occasionally, and he was off work by ~3-4PM every day (except near holiday times when they'd have 20ft of mail and tons of parcels). I actually believe he initially began carrying mail just as a summer job while in college, and then probably kept at it simply because it was fulfilling for him.
He retired a bit early, with >2 years of PTO & Sick Leave time saved up; proceeded to get hip replacement surgery almost immediately -- likely somewhat attributable to walking up/down ~100 flights of stairs each for a nearby apartment complex on his route.
Unfortunately he passed away just 6 weeks after retiring. The funeral procession had ~50 (ish) LLVs in it, and I think he'd have liked it. It made me smile, on what was an otherwise cold day both literally & figuratively speaking. :)
I miss his advice tremendously, he was a very smart person and I often reflect on his decision to become a mailman, despite having a law degree. I have but a [honors!] GED, though more philosophically sometimes I wonder if more succinct & 'adventurous' job -- and a more frugal lifestyle -- might be more fulfilling. I respected his decision though, and as I've aged I definitely feel that I better understand it, as well.
- t0mbstone 8y agoPassing away only six weeks after retiring... man...
- dsfyu404ed 8y agoWhen your old a decrease in physical activity can be very bad for your overall health. Many people live into old age being very active for their age, suffer some minor injury that leaves them bedridden simply because of age then their health declines and they die shortly thereafter. Ask anyone who works in a nursing home and they'll have plenty of stories of 90yr old ladies who were walking a mile a day until they fell and then wound up in the nursing home and died there. Sounds like the person you're replying to's father got hip surgery right after retiring. I wouldn'd be surprised if the recovery was what killed him.
- adanto6840 8y agoA heart attack ~10 years prior to death, had otherwise been in relatively good health though a little bit overweight. I agree though and think you're generally correct; his route required a decent bit of walking/stairs and probably kept him in much better shape. He became ill about 6wk post-op and passed the night before Valentines Day; an ice storm had just come through and the power was out at his house. Was quite sudden & unexpected, he had been doing well, walking & I'd been taking him to some of his follow-ups. He'd even left me a message on my "voicemail" (answering machine, hah) a few hours prior to passing -- jokingly chastising me for calling him the night before in the middle of 'the' IU college basketball game ("How dare you call me in the middle of...!" hah). Sadly, I've lost the recording since then. =) An autopsy later revealed, from memory, something like 80-90% calcification of vessels within his heart. Is almost 15 years ago now, and probably only really come to grips with his passing in the last 5 years or so -- I wouldn't wish the experience on anyone, and definitely not something you want to go through as a young 'adult'.
- watersb 8y agoThe postal workers I have met take their jobs very seriously, and are generally very helpful. Customer-oriented. Sounds as if your father had a really good life. Thanks for sharing hise story.