I'm like this and I know why it happens for me. I cannot think my thoughts while listening to others. Either I'm listening, or I'm thinking, I cannot do both at

I'm like this and I know why it happens for me. I cannot think my thoughts while listening to others. Either I'm listening, or I'm thinking, I cannot do both at once. I can follow others and sometime I can make a contribution, but it would be a small contribution, a deal less than I could do given a time to think. I tried to find some way around it, and the only way I see is to learn how to think loudly. The only way is to supress others from thinking by speaking aloud my thoughts as they come. Let others follow my thoughts, not the other way around. I figured it out while making some group work with ~20 yo students being a student myself. I'm older (I was 35-40 over that period) and therefore smarter and in the most cases I was able to do this group work myself a way better then they do. I tried different approaches. I tried to take a leader role in a discussion and to talk everytime I feel like this. I tried to let someone else to become a leader and to follow her. I tried to just get out of the discussion, to sit quietly with my own thoughts and to come with my own solution to compare it with the group one. The conclusion is: I cannot think AND listen at the same time.