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Someone else said it's an addiction if it interferes with your life. But for me, it's all my life is really. I don't have friends, relationships, etc. and hav

Someone else said it's an addiction if it interferes with your life. But for me, it's all my life is really. I don't have friends, relationships, etc. and haven't since I was a teenager (I'm in my thirties now). As such I don't have hobbies or whatever. I just go to work (programmer) and come home and browse reddit, hn, youtube, etc. until the next day.

ficklepickle 8y ago
I can relate. I was in a similar place. Just know it can get better. Best thing I ever did was find a therapist that I really clicked with. The accountability and lack of judgement really helped me make progress. And a bit of progress can be really encouraging. Support is really important. I wouldn't have made it on my own. My email is in my profile, so please don't hesitate to use it.
- m90 8y ago
  Before prescribing something that is "better" you might want to find out if the OP considers their situation worth improving. I can't find any hints on if they are happy or unhappy about it. I get that you are acting in good faith, but at the same time I get the feeling you consider the OP to be in "a sad place" based on nothing but social norms.
  - jacobush 8y ago
    based on biological norms - humans are not wired for that kind of life.
    - m90 8y ago
      I wouldn't be wired for that kind of life either, but the only thing that allows me to make that statement is my own experience as an individual. Which does not apply to anyone else but me. 50 years ago many people would have told you that homosexuality is not something people are wired for based on biological norms. Luckily, this has changed. Maybe you have never made the experience yourself, but being told you need to change something about yourself that you are happy with just because it is not "normal" is a pretty terrible thing.
      - jacobush 8y ago
        Yeah, I don't want to come across like that.
    - tonyedgecombe 8y ago
      We threw out what we were wired for 12,000 years ago when we developed agriculture.
hopler 8y ago
It's a disorder if it interferes with your life. It's an addiction if you are unable to separate yourself from an (external) source of disorder (like alcohol). (We don't say people with internaly manifested neurochemical/ behavioral disoi rders (depression, OCD) are addicted to their imbalances)
MuffinFlavored 8y ago
What would you like to see changed about that situation?
stuntkite 8y ago
I think the second question after interference is if you're happy. I can't fathom having the social life I had in my 20s. I rarely see anyone except my girlfriend and cats. I'm happier than I've ever been... mostly due to a few years of therapy. Turns out too much people qualifies as an addiction for me. It stresses me out, feeds itself, and makes me anxious and sad. I'm gonna go unrepentantly watch youtube and pet a cat now.

ficklepickle 8y ago

I can relate. I was in a similar place. Just know it can get better. Best thing I ever did was find a therapist that I really clicked with. The accountability and lack of judgement really helped me make progress. And a bit of progress can be really encouraging. Support is really important. I wouldn't have made it on my own. My email is in my profile, so please don't hesitate to use it.

m90 8y ago
Before prescribing something that is "better" you might want to find out if the OP considers their situation worth improving. I can't find any hints on if they are happy or unhappy about it. I get that you are acting in good faith, but at the same time I get the feeling you consider the OP to be in "a sad place" based on nothing but social norms.
- jacobush 8y ago
  based on biological norms - humans are not wired for that kind of life.
  - m90 8y ago
    I wouldn't be wired for that kind of life either, but the only thing that allows me to make that statement is my own experience as an individual. Which does not apply to anyone else but me. 50 years ago many people would have told you that homosexuality is not something people are wired for based on biological norms. Luckily, this has changed. Maybe you have never made the experience yourself, but being told you need to change something about yourself that you are happy with just because it is not "normal" is a pretty terrible thing.
    - jacobush 8y ago
      Yeah, I don't want to come across like that.
  - tonyedgecombe 8y ago
    We threw out what we were wired for 12,000 years ago when we developed agriculture.

hopler 8y ago

It's a disorder if it interferes with your life. It's an addiction if you are unable to separate yourself from an (external) source of disorder (like alcohol). (We don't say people with internaly manifested neurochemical/ behavioral disoi rders (depression, OCD) are addicted to their imbalances)

MuffinFlavored 8y ago

What would you like to see changed about that situation?

stuntkite 8y ago

I think the second question after interference is if you're happy. I can't fathom having the social life I had in my 20s. I rarely see anyone except my girlfriend and cats. I'm happier than I've ever been... mostly due to a few years of therapy. Turns out too much people qualifies as an addiction for me. It stresses me out, feeds itself, and makes me anxious and sad. I'm gonna go unrepentantly watch youtube and pet a cat now.