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Would you share how old are you? Sorry if you find that question out of place, but I'm 33 and have kids and I don't (yet?) make such observations as yours.

sokoloff 8y ago
Not @avip, but I’m 47 and definitely feeling the time/family responsibilities crunch. Our parents have all just turned 70+/-2, we have two smart kids in elementary school who need to be fed almost every single day :), a house/yard instead of apartment, everyone’s healthy, but just managing school, activity, and holiday calendars is grueling. In my 20s and 30s, I could code like hell, have time to devote to learning new thing in depth, and play on 4-5 sports teams. Now, I’m still able to function almost the same mentally, but there are 20-40 fewer “free” hours in the week. Something has to give and we’ve decided it’s not the kids... I wouldn’t go back and change anything, but it’s not the same.
- gaius 8y ago
  there are 20x-40 fewer “free” hours in the week Giving up Facebook was a huge win for me. People just don't appreciate how much of a time sink it is (by design). You might think "I'll just check it" then you look up and a quarter or a half an hour has passed! For example I have 2x30min train journeys per workday. I used to spend them just idly scrolling the timeline, clicking like, maybe making some comments. Now I use them for reading on Kindle, or doing a module on EdX or Coursera. And that's even before all the other time I would spend on it. I literally got back 5-10 hrs/week, and it boggles my mind that I ever wasted that time to begin with!
- ramtatatam 8y ago
  Thanks for sharing! Now I understand what you had in your mind is yet to come for me, my children are still toddlers. I'm with you on huge time investment the family is, I am still in the phase where I'm hoping I can keep up by cutting sleep time but at some point during the day body finds its way to take back what was taken away from it...

sokoloff 8y ago

Not @avip, but I’m 47 and definitely feeling the time/family responsibilities crunch. Our parents have all just turned 70+/-2, we have two smart kids in elementary school who need to be fed almost every single day :), a house/yard instead of apartment, everyone’s healthy, but just managing school, activity, and holiday calendars is grueling. In my 20s and 30s, I could code like hell, have time to devote to learning new thing in depth, and play on 4-5 sports teams. Now, I’m still able to function almost the same mentally, but there are 20-40 fewer “free” hours in the week. Something has to give and we’ve decided it’s not the kids... I wouldn’t go back and change anything, but it’s not the same.

gaius 8y ago
there are 20x-40 fewer “free” hours in the week Giving up Facebook was a huge win for me. People just don't appreciate how much of a time sink it is (by design). You might think "I'll just check it" then you look up and a quarter or a half an hour has passed! For example I have 2x30min train journeys per workday. I used to spend them just idly scrolling the timeline, clicking like, maybe making some comments. Now I use them for reading on Kindle, or doing a module on EdX or Coursera. And that's even before all the other time I would spend on it. I literally got back 5-10 hrs/week, and it boggles my mind that I ever wasted that time to begin with!
ramtatatam 8y ago
Thanks for sharing! Now I understand what you had in your mind is yet to come for me, my children are still toddlers. I'm with you on huge time investment the family is, I am still in the phase where I'm hoping I can keep up by cutting sleep time but at some point during the day body finds its way to take back what was taken away from it...