I don't pretend to know what it's like to be a woman - nor really how situations like this are to be resolved positively for both parties. However, one thing t

I don't pretend to know what it's like to be a woman - nor really how situations like this are to be resolved positively for both parties. However, one thing that strikes/confuses me is that while some women may wish to paint the current poor girl's reaction as some kind of universal truth - I've heard of zillions of yarns where it went exactly the other way... i.e. the guy and girl end up having a night of great sex because he was bold enough to go all in (pun a little bit intended). This schism in results tells me that only one thing can be known for sure. If you're going to go stampeding for the crotch, make sure you've picked a girl that's up for it. Don't know how to pick such a lady? Don't know if you know how to pick such a lady? Buy her flowers then... and we can all be spared these excruciating discussions on a place where we'd all feel much more comfortable chatting about code.