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Ask HN: How to build self-confidence to realize dreams?

• hackerblues 16y ago
  The best way to gain confidence is to be able to list a series of things you have done which you can be proud of. How does one generate such a list?.Pick an easy task you want to achieve, write it down, do it, cross it off your list. Continue to repeat this with increasingly difficult but achievable goals, one at a time, step by step. I appreciate it can be motivating to have a grand vision but you need to design a series of smaller wins for yourself along the way, it's too hard a slog psychologically otherwise. In the future I want to have a dream girlfriend and run a business, so today I get out of bed, go for a walk outside, say hello to a single stranger, and read the first page of a "You and your business 101 Introduction Tutorial" book.
  • rblion 16y ago
    very simple and useful advice. thanks a lot hackerblues.
• harscoat 16y ago
  "10 000 hours rule" & "talent is overrated" explain that you do not need to be a genius to achieve great things, your dreams. Man, you are so young! Life is so ahead of you. It is a great competitive edge when we accept and acknowledge we often are weak. Most people bullshit themselves. To be honest with yourself like you are is a great solid start. The awareness of your greatest weakness may become your greatest strength.
  • rblion 16y ago
    Thanks for the advice and the encouragement harscoat. I read somewhere that humility is the other side of greatness and try my best to live by that. Lying to yourself about your weaknesses is just destructive in so many ways.