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This might be a bit crude. If things truly happened as she stated in her account, he didn't touch her boob. He didn't casually touch her in a way anyone could
by cowpewter 16y ago
This might be a bit crude.
If things truly happened as she stated in her account, he didn't touch her boob. He didn't casually touch her in a way anyone could have accidentally done in a crowded bar.
She said she was wearing a skirt and bike shorts (and presumably panties) underneath the skirt. To do what he allegedly did, he had to reach under her skirt (already not a socially acceptable action) and get past two layers of fabric and elastic (and bike shorts fit pretty tight). He didn't touch her through her clothing, or touch some 'taboo' area revealed via skimpy clothing. He would have had to physically move her clothing out of the way in order to touch her genitals after being explicitly told that she did not want to be touched by him.
I don't see why you are so up for debating the semantics of the phrase 'sexual assault'.
Here's a thought experiment. You (I am assuming you are a heterosexual man, maybe you are, maybe you aren't, but I'm betting I'm right) go to a tech conference. You go to an after-party, have a few beers, have fun, chat with your peers. Another guy comes up to you and asks if you want to talk. You say sure. Suddenly grabs you and kisses you. You shove him away and say, "Whoa man, sorry, I don't go that way." He then grabs your belt buckle with one hand and shoves the other down the front of your pants and squeezes your cock.
Do you feel violated? Have you been assaulted? Hell yes, you were just sexually assaulted, 'in the particulars of your specific case'. And it's horrible. And it should not happen.
Edited to Note:
I only chose the homosexual example to highlight the fact that the physical contact was undesired. My point stands equally even if it were the hottest woman in the world and after the kiss you said, 'No sorry, I'm married.' or any other type of no including just straight up 'No'. If after the no, she still reached down your pants and grabbed your genitals it would still be sexual assault.
And while after reading some of your other posts I gather you feel our current sexual assault laws are too broad, and I support your right to have that opinion, and indeed even open a dialogue about it or campaign to have the law changed in your jurisdiction, I find it in extremely poor taste to have said dialogue in the commentary of such a clear example of sexual assault.