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> Before today I would have gladly recommended to my daughters to follow a tech path. But after tonight I've lost my innocence on that. This type of thing is,

by rue 16y ago

> Before today I would have gladly recommended to my daughters to follow a tech path. But after tonight I've lost my innocence on that. This type of thing is, unfortunately, by no means exclusive to or even at all more common in tech than anywhere else. By all means try to prepare your daughters for the world, but I think evaluating tech as any different in this respect would be a disservice to them.

logicalmind 16y ago
You may be 100% correct, it's just that it hadn't become real for me. I am in my late 30's and have father-friends in various industries. When I went to school there were a couple of female students in the class here or there. We treated them no different than any other students. There were plenty of embarrassing sexual advances by students, but nothing along the lines of sexual assault. Men and women of the tech community were the smart students. I've talked to many father-friends who have sons and daughters who go to various high schools and colleges. I've heard stories of sexual assaults and very unfortunate situations. But I could always justify them to myself as inferior disciplines and sad situations. It's not like I thought this never happened in tech. Just the combination of highly skilled, top company, person in tech and the response of a general community that I highly respect give me pause. In general, I think I am older than the HN crowd, so I am fine with thinking a bit different.
- hypatiadotca 16y ago
  we had a conversation on the geekfeminism blog a while back about the issue of not talking about the bad stuff in tech - you might find it insightful, in terms of how some women who are in tech, and have deal with this shit, think about it: http://geekfeminism.org/2010/06/10/dont-mention-the-war/ http://geekfeminism.org/2010/06/10/dont-mention-the-war/

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> Before today I would have gladly recommended to my daughters to follow a tech path. But after tonight I've lost my innocence on that. This type of thing is,

by rue 16y ago

logicalmind 16y ago
You may be 100% correct, it's just that it hadn't become real for me. I am in my late 30's and have father-friends in various industries. When I went to school there were a couple of female students in the class here or there. We treated them no different than any other students. There were plenty of embarrassing sexual advances by students, but nothing along the lines of sexual assault. Men and women of the tech community were the smart students. I've talked to many father-friends who have sons and daughters who go to various high schools and colleges. I've heard stories of sexual assaults and very unfortunate situations. But I could always justify them to myself as inferior disciplines and sad situations. It's not like I thought this never happened in tech. Just the combination of highly skilled, top company, person in tech and the response of a general community that I highly respect give me pause. In general, I think I am older than the HN crowd, so I am fine with thinking a bit different.
- hypatiadotca 16y ago
  we had a conversation on the geekfeminism blog a while back about the issue of not talking about the bad stuff in tech - you might find it insightful, in terms of how some women who are in tech, and have deal with this shit, think about it: http://geekfeminism.org/2010/06/10/dont-mention-the-war/ http://geekfeminism.org/2010/06/10/dont-mention-the-war/