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but with lack of proof (and that certainly seems to be the case by reading the blog post) it is a very slippery slope to name the person on your blog. Let me g

but with lack of proof (and that certainly seems to be the case by reading the blog post) it is a very slippery slope to name the person on your blog. Let me get this clear: it's your opinion that unless somebody videotapes every moment of their life, that they should not publicly state negative things that happen to them? edit: for the downvoters, which part of that question is inappropriate?

rue 16y ago
Tone, putting words in someone else's mouth and conflating a very specific action with doing anything at all.
- lrm242 16y ago
  And, like a few other comments, authored by an account registered specifically to jump into this fight.
  - jacoblyles 16y ago
    It's a touchy subject, one where if you think differently than other people they may judge you for it. I wouldn't blame someone for coming up with a throwaway account.
  - justaguyb 16y ago
    I'm using a throwaway because so many HNers seem to be rejecting any posts that do something other than cast doubt on the alleged victim.
sp4rki 16y ago
I'm upvoting you since I believe the question has some merit and does have to do with the discussion. Anyways, I've made no such claims, but you have to admit that it is as easy for a woman to completely destroy a man's life with such allegations, the same way a man can destroy a woman's life by committing a sexual crime against her. For this reason it is a necessity to have actual proof, be it video, witnesses, and most importantly DNA. To answer more clearly your question: Anyone has the right to state whatever negative things happen to them, but the moment you start pointing the finger (in this case the alleged sexual harasser) you better have proof not only because you might be potentially destroying the life's of many people in the process, but because you are also opening the door to a suit for defamation of character. Think about it, if it so happens that it's not true, he might lose his job, the custody of his children, any future career in the field in which he has established himself, being labeled as a sex offender, etc. If you're going to completely turn someone's life upside down, you better have the proof to prove such allegations.
- justaguyb 16y ago
  I can't disagree more strongly with what you wrote. People have a right to report the things that happen to them. If they lie, I hope they get ruined in a defamation lawsuit, but honest personal testimony should not be discouraged or treated as a crime. You disgust me.

rue 16y ago

Tone, putting words in someone else's mouth and conflating a very specific action with doing anything at all.

lrm242 16y ago
And, like a few other comments, authored by an account registered specifically to jump into this fight.
- jacoblyles 16y ago
  It's a touchy subject, one where if you think differently than other people they may judge you for it. I wouldn't blame someone for coming up with a throwaway account.
- justaguyb 16y ago
  I'm using a throwaway because so many HNers seem to be rejecting any posts that do something other than cast doubt on the alleged victim.

sp4rki 16y ago

I'm upvoting you since I believe the question has some merit and does have to do with the discussion. Anyways, I've made no such claims, but you have to admit that it is as easy for a woman to completely destroy a man's life with such allegations, the same way a man can destroy a woman's life by committing a sexual crime against her. For this reason it is a necessity to have actual proof, be it video, witnesses, and most importantly DNA. To answer more clearly your question: Anyone has the right to state whatever negative things happen to them, but the moment you start pointing the finger (in this case the alleged sexual harasser) you better have proof not only because you might be potentially destroying the life's of many people in the process, but because you are also opening the door to a suit for defamation of character. Think about it, if it so happens that it's not true, he might lose his job, the custody of his children, any future career in the field in which he has established himself, being labeled as a sex offender, etc. If you're going to completely turn someone's life upside down, you better have the proof to prove such allegations.

justaguyb 16y ago
I can't disagree more strongly with what you wrote. People have a right to report the things that happen to them. If they lie, I hope they get ruined in a defamation lawsuit, but honest personal testimony should not be discouraged or treated as a crime. You disgust me.