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I think that the most appropriate way to deal this is with consistent and timely enforcement of rules: if someone gropes you or worse, call him or her out in fr
by sqrt17 16y ago
I think that the most appropriate way to deal this is with consistent and timely enforcement of rules: if someone gropes you or worse, call him or her out in front of the group and ask for help from bystanders to remove the person from the place, or, if appropriate, hold him or her and call the police.
There's no shame in asking other people for help when there's a situation to be dealt with, and I'd be surprised if a bunch of ApacheCon attendees were less than helpful in this regard, even in an after-several-beers state. Independently of whether someone barfed on you, stole your wallet, sexually assaulted you or wanted to start a boxing fight.
- lizzard 16y agoI agree that is a good way to deal with these situations. React immediately, in the moment, and enlist the people around you. That turns out to be very hard to do. It's difficult to have the presence of mind. I've done it many times, but haven't always managed to react immediately, 100% of the time. I believe it takes practice. It's worth setting up a situation to role-play and actually say the words to call someone out and shut their bad behavior down, and how to support someone who's trying to do that. The Open Source Women Back Each Other Up Project might be helpful: http://backupproject.org/faq.html http://backupproject.org/faq.html
- follower 16y ago> if someone gropes you or worse, call him or her out in front of the group In a way that's what has happened with this blog post. And look at the response. > There's no shame in asking other people for help There is if someone calls you a liar or comments on your sexual behaviour as a result. It's reasons like this that people are reluctant to report incidents like this.