You're judging people based on a charicature. Your percieved red flags are nothing of the sort. And, in your continued obliviousness, you miss the fact that the

You're judging people based on a charicature. Your percieved red flags are nothing of the sort. And, in your continued obliviousness, you miss the fact that these people are alienated by shunning like yours. People are cast off for being "creepy" when this really amounts o ften times to falling outside norms; then you retroactively rationalize your coldness with vague associations of physical danger. If you want to go by stereotypes, people drawn toward inceldom typically don't have the build, coordination, or practice to be violent. And the scary part is how hard it is to shake such an image if you find yourself on the verges of society, exactly because of nonsensical fears like yours. This isn't any better than racism or sexism, except it is socially acceptable because we have recently come to view men as privileged in the west. The bottom line is that you, like much of society, like many in "popular" social circles, are biased by an irrational aversion to otherness, except this particular form of tribalism is socially acceptable.