These comments are pretty interesting, especially the "80/20" and the "top x% of men". Assuming those are both at least partially true... I can't help but think

These comments are pretty interesting, especially the "80/20" and the "top x% of men". Assuming those are both at least partially true... I can't help but think the rankings change within 5 years of being married. That is, what women (probably men too) want when they're dating (or browsing potential matches on apps) changes quite a bit after they're married and have kids. That is to say, things that match you on apps don't keep you happy for the next several decades. Maybe an example would be something like "he's cute and has a good job" is boyfriend material, but ten years later "all he does is work" really gets old fast. Not meaning to generalize at all with this, just some thoughts based on what I've seen around my social groups.