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This isn't really a good faith argument - I'm sure there are plenty of regular users on this site that fit into the bucket of "bad at dating" but have a good ca

This isn't really a good faith argument - I'm sure there are plenty of regular users on this site that fit into the bucket of "bad at dating" but have a good career, at least a few decent friends, and aren't quoting serial killers or vocal visitors of some dark internet hole. All the "incels are/worship serial killer weirdos" rhetoric does is politicize the subject into an unarguable tribal debate.

watwut 8y ago
There is no bad faith in what I said. That is exactly my consulusion from reading it. Not killers really, but definitely vibe of people who tend to respond to interpersonal problems with abuse and retaliation. Also, they did not seemed to care about relationship with real person warts farts and compromises - they want girl in abstract with no effort to figure what would make real girl suitable partner for them personally except look. I have no way to judge career and don't care. But their grasp of how human relationships work was off from how I see people behave irl - frankly with most focus on rating and social status supposed to be acquired from pairing. It is also that part where dating is treated as game separate from other kind of relationships. It is not just how I see it work.