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EDIT: Married since 2012 here: At first glance, Tinder sounded like some end game dating opportunity. While its first users were embarrassed to say they were

EDIT: Married since 2012 here: At first glance, Tinder sounded like some end game dating opportunity. While its first users were embarrassed to say they were doing online dating, I reassured them- Its fine! Find your SO! Years later, it seems to have turned into a world of unmet expectations. When its incredibly easy to find a date, people don't seem to try as hard to make things work. They find flaws and compare. The worst offenders never seem to be happy. Admittedly, it might have also further shrunk the pool of "the good ones", where the only people left have bad jobs, drug problems, and incredibly high expectations. On another note, I'm wondering how it has changed Sex. It seems sex has never been easier to have due to these dating apps. I wonder if people will be able to settle down.

e40 8y ago
All the articles I've read say people are having less sex. I don't know if they are true, but it definitely seems to fly in the face of the readily available dating apps. I can tell you, as a lurker in some of the dating subreddits, it seems lots of guys complain they never get matches, or rarely do. And, a lot of the women complain about a constant stream of terrible matches with men. Here's a thought: maybe focusing purely on looks (like Tinder does) isn't a good recipe for sexual compatibility.
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- hopler 8y ago
  Tinder promotes the ancient practice of polygamy, very effectively. The highest status males are having sex with many many women , and the major of males are having less than their peers of the last did. Women hold mostly steady but are more like to part of a "harem" than a monogamt relationship.
  - bb611 8y ago
    Is there data to support this argument?
    - ransom1538 8y ago
      I don't agree it makes it a "harem", but an interesting stat: "It was determined that the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men." I knew (Anecdotal) this was true watching a female friend using dating apps. Her inbox, full of hundreds of unread messages. Any guy would have read each message 3 times. https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g...
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- curtis 8y ago
  > All the articles I've read say people are having less sex. All the articles I've read say that married people have the most sex. They also say that a smaller proportion of the population is married these days. Any study that doesn't explicitly account for the above is not going to tell you nearly as much as the headline would lead you to believe.
- ksec 8y ago
  >I don't know if they are true, If anything I think they are having way more casual sex, helped and fuelled by these dating apps.
bpicolo 8y ago
> I wonder if people will be able to settle down Seems like it, if 10% of the married couples in the Times mention they met via an app?
jcampbell1 8y ago
In regards to sex, finding casual sex on Tinder isn't as easy as people make it out to be. I have done it a decent amount, but getting dragged home by a girl at the end of a night at a bar happens more naturally. Girls interested in casual sex have always had plenty of opportunities. If anything it has made it easier for the top 5% of male profiles, and harder for everyone else. The current generation is having less sex than previous generations, and I think Tinder contributes to that which is opposite of everything written about Tinder.
- eeeeeeeeeeeee 8y ago
  I’m not sure it’s only Tinder and dating apps being the cause. I think a lot more people are content staying home with all of our cheap and ubiquitous entertainment.
XorNot 8y ago
> On another note, I'm wondering how it has changed Sex. It seems sex has never been easier to have due to these dating apps. I wonder if people will be able to settle down. This is just an enormous pile of social baggage and stereotypes. "Marriage is about a reliable supply of sex" - really?
odiroot 8y ago
There were already multiple articles circulating the Millenials have less sex than their parents. It may have opened the floodgates for limited few but lowered for everyone else. You'd find that contemporary online dating is used for everything but hooking up.

e40 8y ago

All the articles I've read say people are having less sex. I don't know if they are true, but it definitely seems to fly in the face of the readily available dating apps. I can tell you, as a lurker in some of the dating subreddits, it seems lots of guys complain they never get matches, or rarely do. And, a lot of the women complain about a constant stream of terrible matches with men. Here's a thought: maybe focusing purely on looks (like Tinder does) isn't a good recipe for sexual compatibility.

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hopler 8y ago
Tinder promotes the ancient practice of polygamy, very effectively. The highest status males are having sex with many many women , and the major of males are having less than their peers of the last did. Women hold mostly steady but are more like to part of a "harem" than a monogamt relationship.
- bb611 8y ago
  Is there data to support this argument?
  - ransom1538 8y ago
    I don't agree it makes it a "harem", but an interesting stat: "It was determined that the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men." I knew (Anecdotal) this was true watching a female friend using dating apps. Her inbox, full of hundreds of unread messages. Any guy would have read each message 3 times. https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g...
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curtis 8y ago
> All the articles I've read say people are having less sex. All the articles I've read say that married people have the most sex. They also say that a smaller proportion of the population is married these days. Any study that doesn't explicitly account for the above is not going to tell you nearly as much as the headline would lead you to believe.
ksec 8y ago
>I don't know if they are true, If anything I think they are having way more casual sex, helped and fuelled by these dating apps.

bpicolo 8y ago

> I wonder if people will be able to settle down Seems like it, if 10% of the married couples in the Times mention they met via an app?

jcampbell1 8y ago

In regards to sex, finding casual sex on Tinder isn't as easy as people make it out to be. I have done it a decent amount, but getting dragged home by a girl at the end of a night at a bar happens more naturally. Girls interested in casual sex have always had plenty of opportunities. If anything it has made it easier for the top 5% of male profiles, and harder for everyone else. The current generation is having less sex than previous generations, and I think Tinder contributes to that which is opposite of everything written about Tinder.

eeeeeeeeeeeee 8y ago
I’m not sure it’s only Tinder and dating apps being the cause. I think a lot more people are content staying home with all of our cheap and ubiquitous entertainment.

XorNot 8y ago

> On another note, I'm wondering how it has changed Sex. It seems sex has never been easier to have due to these dating apps. I wonder if people will be able to settle down. This is just an enormous pile of social baggage and stereotypes. "Marriage is about a reliable supply of sex" - really?

odiroot 8y ago

There were already multiple articles circulating the Millenials have less sex than their parents. It may have opened the floodgates for limited few but lowered for everyone else. You'd find that contemporary online dating is used for everything but hooking up.