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Depression, Self-Identity and Reality: Living in a Story Created by Facebook
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- annadane 8y agoFacebook is playing a very dangerous game by not allowing people full control of their feeds and even algorithmically sorting things. That's different from just "social media", it's a specifically Facebook way of doing things
- borjamoya 8y agoI totally agree. And we're the ones paying the price of their actions.
- TomMarius 8y agoWho is we? I am not paying anything AFAIK. When my girlfriend had problems, she simply stopped using it that much. I myself simply don't subscribe to pseudomotivational bullshit or internet "personalities".
- gtirloni 8y ago"We" is referring to society in general. There will be exceptions to everything. Maybe you'd like to point out that people are free to opt out? Is that what you're saying?
- moreorless 8y agoIt sounds good on paper, but in reality, it is not. For many people, they absolutely need to be on FB otherwise they will be excluded from all their friends. Sure those people can choose be hermits.
- ericd 8y agoI think it's mostly this mindset that keeps that being true. As soon as some of your friends defect from FB, it becomes much easier to defect yourself. Or, you could be the first person, and make it a bit more viable for your other friends to stop. At this point, most of my friends don't really use Facebook much, we mostly stick to messaging apps and email. Maybe start by making a chat group in Telegram and telling people about it?
- borjamoya 8y agoThat's what I meant, "we" as society, as culture. Because people aren't just tweaking their stories. When you do this at a mass scale you have a responsibility as citizen. And as I pointed out, building fictional stories can lead to genocides and wars (we've already seen it). We all suffer from this.
- RhodesianHunter 8y agoWhen people get stuck in a bubble of fake news and manufactured outrage they tend to vote accordingly, and that does impact you.
- throwaway127831 8y agoIsn’t Twitter doing this as well by algorithmically sorting their feed? Why single out Facebook?
- village-idiot 8y agoThere’s a single switch on Twitter to turn this off. You can bash Twitter for a lot of things, but this isn’t it.
- throwaway127831 8y agoAs long as algorithmic is the default, it’s changing aggregate behavior in a big way I can switch algorithmic sorting off, but if it’s the default for everyone else, and causing the most polarizing political content to spread even faster, it effects me and even people who don’t use Twitter at all
- joeax 8y agoI have scaled back my usage of Facebook after I discovered they are advertising my like activity to my audience i.e. "friends". I've had relatives accost me at family gatherings or have been unfriended over a Facebook page I followed, even though I rarely if ever share my personal views directly in my feed. Sometimes I'll like something even though I have a marginal interest in the subject. Facebook has the power to destroy life-long friendships because we continue to give it this power.
- grawprog 8y agoYa...I really think hard about it before I like anything on facebook. Even scrolling through the feed or something I'm always concious not to accidently like anything or press the wrong button. I actually prefer looking through things on the few private groups i'm part of and if I post anything it'll be to one of those for the most part. Your normal facebook friends don't see anything you do on those. I think worse though is when people tag you in public posts. You have no control over it at all, it gets announced to, seemingly randomly, some or all of your other friends...i'm not sure who exactly but I know other people end up seeing this...and the only way to get rid of it is to ask the other person to remove it or find the post, click untag yourself, not remove post from feed...that leaves you tagged in the post still...it needs to be the right one because if you remove it before untagging yourself good luck finding that shit again.
- ilovecaching 8y agoI think this type of depression that is supposedly a response to social media is simply a symptom of something that would have manifested itself with or without being plugged in. One might write a novel on the subject, but humans are easily dissatisfied. We chase after things we think we want, but are really unfulfilling. Many of us lack a true calling. We travel to exotic places and buy expensive things only to realize that the hedonistic treadmill is real.
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- schoen 8y agoMaybe your theory is compatible with the idea that some ways of using social media simply turn up the speed knob on the hedonic treadmill.
- borjamoya 8y agoYou're right. This isn't new. It started way back with advertising. The problem is the scope it's getting right now--we no longer have an active role on this process.
- blfr 8y agoI'm all for burning Facebook to the ground but the rise in the use of antidepressants started well before modern social media. It does look associated with alienation, so does travelling alone, but social media use is probably a result of loneliness, an attempt to connect however feeble, not its cause.
- apatters 8y agoI agree that other forces are at work behind the rise of loneliness and alienation in modern society, but I think Facebook exacerbates these problems. Facebook ultimately encourages you to carry out social interactions online with people who aren't physically present. It's very easy and convenient and next thing you know your eyes are glued to your phone so often that it starts to replace physical interactions. You go out and spend half your time texting instead of talking to the people you're with, or maybe you stop going out at all. But we are animals after all, not buckets of bits, and physical presence matters. It directs attention, priorities, investment, it gives people unique opportunities to bond. Anyone who's had a long distance relationship can tell you that they're fraught with challenges because you just don't get to spend a lot of time together. So maybe socializing in cyberspace, while it has advantages, simply doesn't have all the benefits it has in meatspace. For my part I now put meatspace connections first, and aside from work, my calendar revolves around meeting other actual humans in person. Even if we don't share all the same interests, maybe even if they get on my nerves a little, I lived most of my social life online for a long time, and I like meatspace better. My Facebook usage waxes and wanes and I don't feel it makes me depressed--but if Facebook relationships were all I had, I'd be practically suicidal. I think that FB is a crutch and a mild vice. And like all vices, the solution is to replace them with something positive.
- bigbugbag 8y agoInteresting thing is that antidepressant use rised despite antidepressant being mostly ineffective and their underlying principle of action being flawed. This raises the question of why antidepressant use rised this way. Could it be that heavily medicated people are easier to manage and keep under control to prevent them from rebelling against the lives they're forced into by the societal system ? Could it be related to huge profits from pharmaceutical corporations ? Then again Facebook and the computer as a machine middleman in human interaction is destroying social interaction and society fabric by replacing actual meaningful interaction that builds human ability to be human. Not the single cause but a recent and efficient accelerator of a trend that push us further apart from each other. I recommend watching the following BBC documentaries by Adam Curtis: The Century of the Self[1] The Trap: What Happened to Our Dream of Freedom[2] All Watched Over by Machines of Loving Grace[3] [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Century_of_the_Self [2]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Trap_(TV_series) [3]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/All_Watched_Over_by_Machines_of_Loving_Grace_(TV_series)
- alfonsodev 8y agoI'd like to see studies of how social media affects different personalities types. My intuition is that the negative effect can manifest in different ways. For example a person that has social anxiety in real life, let's say because is unconsciously worried about how to behave socially, maybe because the fear of rejection or being bullied by the group. This person would post probably close to zero, and avoid public comments, while being very anxious while waiting for a private response. I think the effect in this case, is that the person becomes even more isolated and even less social. Because these people can manage still in small groups of 4 to 5 people but I think on average we have 300 facebook "friends", that might not be manageable. And the extroverts would engage reactively only to other extroverts, causing other type of harms. That's my intuition from my direct observations.
- borjamoya 8y agoThere are so many different paths this discussion can take. But what's for sure is that everything is going to the extremes--there's no middle ground here.
- pjc50 8y agoI would say that most of the Extremely Online people I know who post a lot talk of introversion and social anxiety. These things manifest differently in online spaces.
- xena 8y agoMalaclypse: Everyone is hurting eachother, the planet is rampant with injustices, whole societies plunder groups of their own people, mothers imprison sons, children perish while brothers war. The Goddess: What is the matter with that, if it's what you want to do? Malaclypse: But nobody wants it! Everybody hates it! The Goddess: Oh. Well, then stop.
- i_am_proteus 8y agoFacebook is the "cigarettes" of our era. It's addictive, and evidence that regular use is detrimental to our well-being is mounting. Strangely, it's also what we do at parties when we're bored.
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- teleclimber 8y agoInteresting article about something we should definitely be having a conversation about. But i want to point out an anecdote: we have a newborn and we share pics of her privately with fam. All the pics are of her good moments: her first smiles, her just being cute, etc... We don't share pics or videos of her screaming her lungs out, or of her diaper explosions, which intuitively woul be weird. Reading this article it sounds like we are doing ourselves a disservice by not sharing the bad. Like we're not being honest with ourselves or our family. But are we? isn't the point of memories to preserve the good ones? The printed photo albums my parents have of my childhood don't have any pictures of me having a meltdown. There is a saying among mothers that you forget the pain of childbirth otherwise you'd never have a second child. I'm sure social media makes things worse by being too present in people's self esteem but I am not sure memories have to preserve the downsides of reality.
- outime 8y agoTo make a fair comparison you’d need to put it so that you’d be checking happy family/friend album photos every day (perhaps several times per day) from different people. Occasional photo album watching (e.g. during Xmas) is a different story.
- burdo3417 8y agoInteresting point. But I believe the problem relies not in the sharing but in our perception of reality based on what others have shared. I understand that it's an inevitable consequence of the first but that has been the case for centuries. The new problem is that this misperceptions are now on a massive and unprecedented scale and our brain is constantly attacked by this misperceptions.
- borjamoya 8y agoThis is exactly right. The scope of social media is greater. It's a status show where your stuff isn't just in your living room but out there for you to “show off” to the world and compare it with others. This ultimately builds our story, our culture, that's when everybody believes a particular story and leads to the madness of crowds.
- Yan-solucracy 8y agohttps://youtu.be/iGCGhD8i-o4 https://youtu.be/iGCGhD8i-o4
- egypturnash 8y agoThe ending was perfect. “Be very careful with stories and social media ALSO NOW IM ON YOUTUBE, LIKE AND SUBSCRIBE!”
- borjamoya 8y agoWhat's wrong with that? I'm creating youtube videos because I know people are there, and the change I'm trying to create is to change people's minds. I can't change the way people consume media, so the only chance we've got is to adapt it and make change happen.
- boltzmannbrain 8y agoI'm happier and healthier that these conversations are happening; I'm not alone. Facebook is clearly problematic, and I've been suspicious of the negative effects of Instagram and Hinge (dating app). The former would make me jealous/depressed/frustrated as I compare myself to glimpses of my peers supposedly winning at life. The latter would make me less outgoing in real life, b/c somehow flipping through dating profiles satisfied an underlying desire to meet new people. I highly recommend Johann Hari's work: "Lost Connections" book [1], Sam Harris and Ezra Klein podcast episodes [2, 3], TED talk [4]. [1] https://thelostconnections.com/ https://thelostconnections.com/ [2] https://samharris.org/podcasts/142-addiction-depression-meaningful-life/ https://samharris.org/podcasts/142-addiction-depression-mean... [3] https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/vox/the-ezra-klein-show/e/54111398 https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/vox/the-ezra-klein-show/e/5... [4] https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong?language=en https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_y...
- borjamoya 8y agoThanks for the links!