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I am having the same problem. I have two decades of experience, but now I have a large gap in my employement. Most recently I spent 7 weeks interviewing with a

I am having the same problem. I have two decades of experience, but now I have a large gap in my employement. Most recently I spent 7 weeks interviewing with a company for a position I was super solid on, and then after 7 weeks, 3 in person interviews and being told I was "in background check phase" -- even though we hadnt even signed a single document/filled out any paperwork I was ghosted for two weeks and then told "we are not adding to the team at this time" I'm basically suicidal at this point. I have no freaking idea what to do. I apply to many many jobs and get through multiple conversations and then either ghosted, lied to or rejected. I would like to know if someone can run a background check on me and tell me what others might see? I spoke to a friend and they said they know others who are experiencing this as well -- and effectively I am experiencing age-ism now that I am in my 40s

wildengineer 8y ago
One of my biggest fears is being aged out of software development as I am almost 40. Over the last year I've been casually looking for a new job while currently employed. Yes I know its not the same, but bear with me. By November I had not yet found a new job and the culture at my current workplace had taken a turn for the worse. I began to worry that I was getting too old for the market. I never contemplated suicide, but I was scared. This is what I did. 1. Setup personally customized email alerts for all the job sites I could find. 2. Sent resumes out every day. 3. I worked on myself. Nearly every day since I've solved leetcode problems, wrote open source software, learned Kotlin, relearned the fundamentals of functional programming, sharpened my python, bought a book on ML and wrote a series of jupyter notebooks working through the standard ML models. I had many interviews during this time. For some of them I was horribly unprepared, but I used those failures to figure out what I had to know the next time. Within the last week I've received 3 offers. Yesterday I accepted one making great money, working from home, for a company I believe in. Please fight the fear and keep grinding.
- mars4rp 8y ago
  I am just wondering which other profession goes through this much grinding just to change a company at near 40!!?
ajdhsjakafjt 8y ago
Talk to somebody. You're entering a vicious circle in your mind. As stupid as it may sound, call a suicide hotline if you need to talk.

wildengineer 8y ago

One of my biggest fears is being aged out of software development as I am almost 40. Over the last year I've been casually looking for a new job while currently employed. Yes I know its not the same, but bear with me. By November I had not yet found a new job and the culture at my current workplace had taken a turn for the worse. I began to worry that I was getting too old for the market. I never contemplated suicide, but I was scared. This is what I did. 1. Setup personally customized email alerts for all the job sites I could find. 2. Sent resumes out every day. 3. I worked on myself. Nearly every day since I've solved leetcode problems, wrote open source software, learned Kotlin, relearned the fundamentals of functional programming, sharpened my python, bought a book on ML and wrote a series of jupyter notebooks working through the standard ML models. I had many interviews during this time. For some of them I was horribly unprepared, but I used those failures to figure out what I had to know the next time. Within the last week I've received 3 offers. Yesterday I accepted one making great money, working from home, for a company I believe in. Please fight the fear and keep grinding.

mars4rp 8y ago
I am just wondering which other profession goes through this much grinding just to change a company at near 40!!?

ajdhsjakafjt 8y ago

Talk to somebody. You're entering a vicious circle in your mind. As stupid as it may sound, call a suicide hotline if you need to talk.