When I was in high school, I was horrible at communicating with people. Never went on a date with a girl and bombed all of my interviews. Almost ten years later

When I was in high school, I was horrible at communicating with people. Never went on a date with a girl and bombed all of my interviews. Almost ten years later, I'm pretty much a different person and I think it has to do with three things: 1) Check out the book How to Win Friends & Influence People[1]. It argues that the best way to make connections with people is to be genuinely interested. I read it the summer after graduating high school and try to reread it every couple of years. 2) When I was in college, I went to parties with my friends and forced myself to talk to people. At first, it was extremely awkward, but after a couple years, everything just clicked. If you're out of college, it'd probably be bars/clubs instead of college parties. 3) I joined Toastmasters, which is an organization that helps people become better communicators. They have periodic meetings where you would give a prepared or impromptu speech and have people provide constructive criticism. It's a great place and everyone there is extremely supportive. I think the best way to improve your conversational skills is really just going out there and putting yourself in situations outside of your comfort zone. It'll take a while, but you'll improve a little bit each time. Good Luck! [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influen...