> I feel good when I help someone. I feel good when I have made a great project. I feel good when I made a good decision. Those are all good things to feel goo

> I feel good when I help someone. I feel good when I have made a great project. I feel good when I made a good decision. Those are all good things to feel good about. You're feeling good about the results, not the criticism. If you feel good about those results and NOT about the criticism, you will try to use the criticism to get those results and no more. If you assume you'll get those results from the criticism, you'll just criticize a lot, without concern. And generally, to get those results you need to be judicious in the criticism, because bad results are also possible (and probable, if you aren't considering the criticism itself before offering it)