I really wish Unity3D would relinquish control of my Visual Studio Solution files and have a much nicer path to including its libraries as a dependency manually

I really wish Unity3D would relinquish control of my Visual Studio Solution files and have a much nicer path to including its libraries as a dependency manually so I could start using some of the other languages in the CLR ecosystem. I've managed to get it to work before by very carefully searching for the DLLs in the Unity install directory and compiling my own DLLs into a Plugins folder in my Unity project, but it's very brittle. It's not obvious which set of DLLs to import (there are lots of different versions of each, for various rhyme platforms), and I upgrade new Unity versions frequently, so the location is a moving target. And Heaven help you if you want to depend on something that is only released as a script bundle in a Unity Package (like every VR SDK out there right now). And given how Unity's braindead YAML metafile system works, you're pretty sure to break your component references in your scenes and prefabs with even the most minor of rearchitecturings. Unity having its own build pipeline is a huge impediment. It all but forces you to write custom scripts that do some of the most basic things, as if we live in the Node hellscape of Gulp/Grunt/Webpack. And none of it is documented well enough to get it right without hours of ping-pong with test runs.