> Inevitably, the discussion will turn to programming languages. One might lament "I have to modify some Java code. I hate Java. (Oh, sorry, Kyle.)" (It probabl

> Inevitably, the discussion will turn to programming languages. One might lament "I have to modify some Java code. I hate Java. (Oh, sorry, Kyle.)" (It probably doesn't help that we gave Kyle the nickname "Java-boy" over a decade ago.) This circle of "friends" sounds like a toxic environment where apologies are empty and contempt runs rampant. Are they truly sorry for what they said, or are they sorry they said it to Kyle's face?