"this is really dumb, because most people don't want to date people with the same interests; rather, they want to date people with any compelling set of interes

"this is really dumb, because most people don't want to date people with the same interests; rather, they want to date people with any compelling set of interests as long as there aren't any red flags." I´ve found that in my own personal relationships and those of friends, that in many relationships the partners share a core interest or set of interests that unite a partnership. Could be something as simple as having attended the same University, holding the same religious/theological beliefs and practices, or speaking the same non-English language (in the US). To assume that "most people don't want to date people with the same interests" is a very big assumption, but then again, I guess you can always put your money where your mouth is. :) That being said, I do think many dating sites are broken, but in my opinion it has more to do with the structure of the sites, and also the ratio of men seeking women to women seeking men is often unworldly disproportionate. You are defining dating and relationships in your own eyes "show me everyone within 10 miles of 14850 except those whose profiles contain: jesus, single mom, smoker, republican, pulp-free orange juice, george bush, herpes, bbw, us weekly, horses, etc." but that may not work for everyone.