> My lived experience is that once you do mix-and-match enough markings to be seen as female, folks will eagerly accept that and ignore whatever “contradictory”

> My lived experience is that once you do mix-and-match enough markings to be seen as female, folks will eagerly accept that and ignore whatever “contradictory” signs might be there. Looking at height, for example, it’s not any weirder to see a 95th percentile woman than a 5th percentile man. If you already check the “F” box, no one will look twice. Have you considered that other people are just being polite? I know about a dozen trans women, and none of them pass. I've never been surprised to discover someone is trans. The main issue seems to be that medical technology can't yet reliably correct all the giveaways: Large hands, narrow hips, wide shoulders, low voice, strong brow, high hairline, gait, etcetera. And those are just the physical attributes. There are also differences in cultural knowledge, mannerisms, and body language. Why would I make an issue of someone not passing, especially a stranger? That'd be like pointing out someone's toupee. It'd make them feel worse about themselves while presenting no useful solution to the problem. (Unlike say, "You've got something in your teeth.")