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With people like you who have never had a real conversation with him judging him based on a single action, how can he be expected not to act defensive? Was part

With people like you who have never had a real conversation with him judging him based on a single action, how can he be expected not to act defensive? Was part of that psych degree learning how to form opinions of someone based on one piece of his writing, without even seeing him in person to see his body language? And who cares if you're self-centered, anyways? The world you see is your world. You can take control of it and make your life what you want it to be, or you can float along on the tides of fate and call the ones who don't self-centered. The funniest part, to me, is that you call him self-centered, but at the same time you expect him to write his article in a way that gives you value.

eggbrain 16y ago
One of the argument he makes is that everyone on the internet is an amateur psychologist, and that anonymity was the only prerequisite for a psych degree. He then used this to assume that people who called him self-centered had no basis for doing so. I was asserting the fact that he came across as self-centered, and I did, in fact, have a psych degree. His response wasn't a good argument, it was dismissing naysayers out of hand as not having expertise in the area. What will his response be to me? That I don't have a PHD? That I have never met him? If I met him, and still thought he was self-centered, would that change his mind? What about 50 people who meet him? Even if he knows he is not self-centered, if his perception is as such, wouldn't that warrant addressing outside of "no you guys don't understand me, you never met me, you guys are a bunch of amateur psychologists". You do three things in your post: claim that I can't tell he's self centered, claim that self-centeredness isn't important, then call me self-centered. Which is it? Is it all three? If so, what does it matter that I think he's self centered, since it doesn't matter? As for the final statement, I gave my opinion as to how I think his post could have helped more people, including me. Is it self-centered to lament that there could have possibly been a better way to go about the followup? Or should critique not be part of any article or post at all?
- BrandonM 16y ago
  I wish your followup focused on things I did both right and wrong, and how I or other people could improve my comments next time, instead of acting so defensive.
  - eggbrain 16y ago
    This is a completely wrong analogy. In the original post, I said he should have used his followup to focus on what HE did right/wrong. Why in your comment has it suddenly changed to me improving what YOU did right/wrong? This seems like a straw man, that is also trying to be an Ad Hominem attack.

eggbrain 16y ago

One of the argument he makes is that everyone on the internet is an amateur psychologist, and that anonymity was the only prerequisite for a psych degree. He then used this to assume that people who called him self-centered had no basis for doing so. I was asserting the fact that he came across as self-centered, and I did, in fact, have a psych degree. His response wasn't a good argument, it was dismissing naysayers out of hand as not having expertise in the area. What will his response be to me? That I don't have a PHD? That I have never met him? If I met him, and still thought he was self-centered, would that change his mind? What about 50 people who meet him? Even if he knows he is not self-centered, if his perception is as such, wouldn't that warrant addressing outside of "no you guys don't understand me, you never met me, you guys are a bunch of amateur psychologists". You do three things in your post: claim that I can't tell he's self centered, claim that self-centeredness isn't important, then call me self-centered. Which is it? Is it all three? If so, what does it matter that I think he's self centered, since it doesn't matter? As for the final statement, I gave my opinion as to how I think his post could have helped more people, including me. Is it self-centered to lament that there could have possibly been a better way to go about the followup? Or should critique not be part of any article or post at all?

BrandonM 16y ago
I wish your followup focused on things I did both right and wrong, and how I or other people could improve my comments next time, instead of acting so defensive.
- eggbrain 16y ago
  This is a completely wrong analogy. In the original post, I said he should have used his followup to focus on what HE did right/wrong. Why in your comment has it suddenly changed to me improving what YOU did right/wrong? This seems like a straw man, that is also trying to be an Ad Hominem attack.