There is a skill to giving feedback and a skill to receiving feedback and exercising both is emotional/communicative labor. Lots of people: 1) Have Unskillfull

There is a skill to giving feedback and a skill to receiving feedback and exercising both is emotional/communicative labor. Lots of people: 1) Have Unskillfully given feedback and seen that backfire on them or have no effect. 2) Given feedback to someone who unskillfully interpreted/listened to it and reacted badly. 3) Can’t be arsed to do the work of communicating clearly——possibly its hard for them to organize their conflicting feelings into words——They threfore choose to suffer rather than advocate for themselves. 4) Are afraid of the very very small but nonzero possibility of another person reacting with violence to them—and therefore remain silent rather than advocating for themselves.