The book was advised to me years back by by an acquintance who thought I could come off as a jerk at times although my intentions were never so. I read, and a

The book was advised to me years back by by an acquintance who thought I could come off as a jerk at times although my intentions were never so. I read, and acted on it for some time, And then shifted some. I am an idealists so I was actually looking to educate myself on how to do it best. Carnegie is right about what people respond to. The part that worked for me was to keep a bright personality. People also wanna be heard. This second one is more taxing on me as it is not my natural mode of thought. Some are far better listeners. I can only spend a small portion of my time on hearing what people have to say. I presume the economy of such efforts is different for others. Unfortunately some people are not worthy of good interaction. Some are incompetent and some are not good people. They may construe your kind gestures as something they can ride. So a selection process should be in place. What works for one, may not work for another. Giving ad hoc advice may also backfire.