The gender roles as you describe them result from an individual choice from every man/women involved. Nobody forces a person today in the system to follow those

The gender roles as you describe them result from an individual choice from every man/women involved. Nobody forces a person today in the system to follow those gender roles. What I see in my circle of friends is that in most couples with kids, it is a conscious choice for the women to spend more time at home (and give up extra hour?) and for the man to spend more time at work. This is indeed a stereotype but there is nobody forcing anyone to follow those gender roles. We all know successful women/men going against those gender roles. If you take a conscious decision to work less hours to spend more time at home, you cannot be mad at "society" for patriarchism etc.