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>Now that I'm a parent, I've made a promise to my kids that I will always let them finish their current game before kicking them off. If they start a new game a

by vrazj 8y ago

>Now that I'm a parent, I've made a promise to my kids that I will always let them finish their current game before kicking them off. If they start a new game after they've been given the last game warning, then there's consequences. They know this, and we rarely have any issues related to behavior and gaming. This is good but most parents don't really know how games work so they can't look at the UI to see if their children are lying.

detaro 8y ago
Luckily they have kids that can explain the games to them.
- baldfat 8y ago
  Making an effort to learn about your child's interest in one of the most beneficial things you can do as a parent.
- Pfhreak 8y ago
  So much this. I'm a parent. I'm a game developer. I'm a former kid who dreamed that someday my parents would sit down and ask me to show them what I was doing. You should know what your kids are playing, and what better way than to show interest in their hobbies. (And, like, maybe talk about it afterwards?)
  - watwut 8y ago
    The amount of time required to play most games is extremely high and expectation that parent should spend so much time with something parent does not like completely absurd. There is also a moment where gamers should understand that the world does not revolt around them nor their games. When everybody is helping preparing dinner and what not, or expected to be on time, there is no rational reason to give the gamer exceptions.
    - ryanlol 8y ago
      Is it really absurd to expect parents to show just a little bit of interest in their kids hobbies? >There is also a moment where gamers should understand that the world does not revolt around them nor their games Is it really unreasonable for children to expect their parents world to pretty much revolve around them?
      - watwut 8y ago
        > Is it really unreasonable for children to expect their parents world to pretty much revolve around them? Yes it is. It is reasonable to expect care and relationship. It is not reasonable to expect your hobby to treated as something more special then hobbies of siblings, grandparents and parents. It is reasonable for other family members to expect kid to participate on activities I mentioned no matter what their interests are. Parents world revolve around children when they are danger to themselves due to young age or sickness or behavioral problems. It revolves around children for many unavoidable reasons, gaming not being one of them. It is not reasonable to expect to be tiptoed around just because your choice of hobby. In fact, it is expected that parents teach this the kid. > Is it really absurd to expect parents to show just a little bit of interest in their kids hobbies? To be able to listen about it? Yes. To be participating? No. Just like with any other kids interest like collecting little pink ponies or memorizing flags. If the kid cant organize the game (stop playing soon enough to be at time) while still participating in outside world, then the kid is not ready to play that game. If the kid is moody after playing game and generally pain in the ass, it is reasonable to stop accommodating gaming and dealing with the behavior the same way parents punish/criticize siblings acting that way for non-gaming reasons.
        Pica_soO 8y ago
        Actually, participation often ruins the hobby. If your dad is better then you at a game/sports its loosing its value to differentiate you from your siblings.
    - AzMoo_ 8y ago
      There isn't an expectation that you will put in all the time required to completely learn a game, but there is an expectation that you will put in the time required to have a basic understanding of the game. As a parent you should know what games your children are playing, the type of content they're being exposed to within those games, and the amount of time they're putting into them. If you're not willing to put in enough time to know what your children are doing then don't have children.
- ugh123 8y ago
  "But mom, the next check point is 8 levels ahead"
- Waterluvian 8y ago
  I remember my older brother saying, "it's like dungeons and dragons" when I asked my dad to buy Warcraft. That got the idea shut down immediately. But later in the year I was quite insistent that it's not that bad. So my dad agreed to watch a bit. I played the first few levels of the demo for him. I still vividly remember him saying, "that's it?" And then we bought it later that week.
  - fjsolwmv 8y ago
    What's wrong with D&D?
    - Waterluvian 8y ago
      No clue. Probably just a remnant of the D&D fear of the 80s. This was 1994 or around then. Whenever Warcraft came out.

by vrazj 8y ago

detaro 8y ago

Luckily they have kids that can explain the games to them.

baldfat 8y ago
Making an effort to learn about your child's interest in one of the most beneficial things you can do as a parent.
Pfhreak 8y ago
So much this. I'm a parent. I'm a game developer. I'm a former kid who dreamed that someday my parents would sit down and ask me to show them what I was doing. You should know what your kids are playing, and what better way than to show interest in their hobbies. (And, like, maybe talk about it afterwards?)
- watwut 8y ago
  The amount of time required to play most games is extremely high and expectation that parent should spend so much time with something parent does not like completely absurd. There is also a moment where gamers should understand that the world does not revolt around them nor their games. When everybody is helping preparing dinner and what not, or expected to be on time, there is no rational reason to give the gamer exceptions.
  - ryanlol 8y ago
    Is it really absurd to expect parents to show just a little bit of interest in their kids hobbies? >There is also a moment where gamers should understand that the world does not revolt around them nor their games Is it really unreasonable for children to expect their parents world to pretty much revolve around them?
    - watwut 8y ago
      > Is it really unreasonable for children to expect their parents world to pretty much revolve around them? Yes it is. It is reasonable to expect care and relationship. It is not reasonable to expect your hobby to treated as something more special then hobbies of siblings, grandparents and parents. It is reasonable for other family members to expect kid to participate on activities I mentioned no matter what their interests are. Parents world revolve around children when they are danger to themselves due to young age or sickness or behavioral problems. It revolves around children for many unavoidable reasons, gaming not being one of them. It is not reasonable to expect to be tiptoed around just because your choice of hobby. In fact, it is expected that parents teach this the kid. > Is it really absurd to expect parents to show just a little bit of interest in their kids hobbies? To be able to listen about it? Yes. To be participating? No. Just like with any other kids interest like collecting little pink ponies or memorizing flags. If the kid cant organize the game (stop playing soon enough to be at time) while still participating in outside world, then the kid is not ready to play that game. If the kid is moody after playing game and generally pain in the ass, it is reasonable to stop accommodating gaming and dealing with the behavior the same way parents punish/criticize siblings acting that way for non-gaming reasons.
      - Pica_soO 8y ago
        Actually, participation often ruins the hobby. If your dad is better then you at a game/sports its loosing its value to differentiate you from your siblings.
  - AzMoo_ 8y ago
    There isn't an expectation that you will put in all the time required to completely learn a game, but there is an expectation that you will put in the time required to have a basic understanding of the game. As a parent you should know what games your children are playing, the type of content they're being exposed to within those games, and the amount of time they're putting into them. If you're not willing to put in enough time to know what your children are doing then don't have children.
ugh123 8y ago
"But mom, the next check point is 8 levels ahead"
Waterluvian 8y ago
I remember my older brother saying, "it's like dungeons and dragons" when I asked my dad to buy Warcraft. That got the idea shut down immediately. But later in the year I was quite insistent that it's not that bad. So my dad agreed to watch a bit. I played the first few levels of the demo for him. I still vividly remember him saying, "that's it?" And then we bought it later that week.
- fjsolwmv 8y ago
  What's wrong with D&D?
  - Waterluvian 8y ago
    No clue. Probably just a remnant of the D&D fear of the 80s. This was 1994 or around then. Whenever Warcraft came out.