You are doing small talk wrong if you are lying. Also why not just be blunt with things you want to know about people? It will put off a lot of people. But what

You are doing small talk wrong if you are lying. Also why not just be blunt with things you want to know about people? It will put off a lot of people. But what is the point of lying ? I made one of my best friends by asking him about gender roles and Catholicism the second time I ever met him, when I found out he was Catholic.