I think the only viable resolution is: providing help for victims should be a very low bar, in ways which don't hurt anyone else including an accused, and punis

I think the only viable resolution is: providing help for victims should be a very low bar, in ways which don't hurt anyone else including an accused, and punishment should retain a higher bar (although you certainly don't need to meet criminal conviction standards to fire someone accused of certain behavior.) And as with a lot of things, focus on prevention/rapid intervention as early as possible, rather than waiting until serious harm has been done.