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Switching jobs is an enormous cost and risk to almost anybody. Sure, there are a lot of tech jobs, but you will probably spend dozens or hundreds hours changing

Switching jobs is an enormous cost and risk to almost anybody. Sure, there are a lot of tech jobs, but you will probably spend dozens or hundreds hours changing to one that will pay you the same or more as you are making now. So you've got this sunk cost and there is no guarantee that your controversial opinion will be acceptable at your next job, unless you discuss it during your interview (which will probably mean it will take you longer to find a job, because that's just weird interview behavior) In my opinion, if you want to share controversial opinions, do it somewhere with a low switching cost, or high trust. I am happy to talk about my politics or sexuality at my hacker space, tree planting group, with regulars at the bar, or with my immediate family (who I love and trust even though we disagree on a lot). I am perfectly happy not finding common interests at work or the PTA, especially when I know my opinions are outside of the first standard deviation.

losteric 8y ago
> I am perfectly happy not finding common interests at work or the PTA I think that's a key distinction - I am not happy in that situation. If you are comfortable, no problem and more power to you! > Switching jobs is an enormous cost and risk to almost anybody. Sure, there are a lot of tech jobs, but you will probably spend dozens or hundreds hours changing to one that will pay you the same or more as you are making now. My point was to evaluate your holistic ROI in the employee-employer relationship... considering where you are, where you're headed, and where you want to be (perhaps even considering your eulogy). What are you putting in and getting out of the relationship? If you are satisfied, keep on keeping on. If not, pivot - the sunk cost fallacy is real. That doesn't mean flipping off your boss and moon-walking out the door. Just... recognize when you have a bad deal and want more, then start looking for ways to make it happen. A pay cut may be perfectly acceptable. If you're in a planning role (engineering, product, or otherwise), the same skills apply to your life.
- jerkstate 8y ago
  Have you considered that the desire to feel fully accepted by all might be detrimental your well-being?
  - pm90 8y ago
    Second this view. I'm perfectly happy to not be friends with my coworkers, if only because I do not want their or mine personal controversial opinions to color the effectiveness of my work.
  - losteric 8y ago
    That was my question to you - you are regulating your behavior out of concern for how others see you. I don't.
    - jerkstate 8y ago
      Bullshit
- brokenmachine 8y ago
  >flipping off your boss and moon-walking out the door That's a great image, lol!

losteric 8y ago

> I am perfectly happy not finding common interests at work or the PTA I think that's a key distinction - I am not happy in that situation. If you are comfortable, no problem and more power to you! > Switching jobs is an enormous cost and risk to almost anybody. Sure, there are a lot of tech jobs, but you will probably spend dozens or hundreds hours changing to one that will pay you the same or more as you are making now. My point was to evaluate your holistic ROI in the employee-employer relationship... considering where you are, where you're headed, and where you want to be (perhaps even considering your eulogy). What are you putting in and getting out of the relationship? If you are satisfied, keep on keeping on. If not, pivot - the sunk cost fallacy is real. That doesn't mean flipping off your boss and moon-walking out the door. Just... recognize when you have a bad deal and want more, then start looking for ways to make it happen. A pay cut may be perfectly acceptable. If you're in a planning role (engineering, product, or otherwise), the same skills apply to your life.

jerkstate 8y ago
Have you considered that the desire to feel fully accepted by all might be detrimental your well-being?
- pm90 8y ago
  Second this view. I'm perfectly happy to not be friends with my coworkers, if only because I do not want their or mine personal controversial opinions to color the effectiveness of my work.
- losteric 8y ago
  That was my question to you - you are regulating your behavior out of concern for how others see you. I don't.
  - jerkstate 8y ago
    Bullshit
brokenmachine 8y ago
>flipping off your boss and moon-walking out the door That's a great image, lol!