I didn't have the experience either one of you did, unfortunately. The other side of my family sought me out when I was 26. My siblings are all 20 years older

I didn't have the experience either one of you did, unfortunately. The other side of my family sought me out when I was 26. My siblings are all 20 years older than me and my nieces and nephews all 6-10 years younger than me. They're nice people but they lived fairly normal New England Catholic upper-middle-class lives. I pretty much grew up broke and on the street in the seedier areas of old New York. We have very little in common. It's probably my fault that everything didn't gel, but it's difficult accepting a completely new family as an adult when you already have struggles with your existing one. Moreover, my father was a complete creep and I learned why my mother stayed away from him. The whole experience was very uncomfortable and very sad and we haven't spoken since.