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When I found my biological mother the similarities were striking. She was a second generation programmer, similar interests, likes and dislikes, we had haunted
by werber 8y ago
When I found my biological mother the similarities were striking. She was a second generation programmer, similar interests, likes and dislikes, we had haunted similar places decades apart, loads of physical quirks. It's mind boggling to me how much of what I thought was my unique self was probably more controlled by genetic variables I had no idea were in play
- dhimes 8y agoThe older I get the more I see this. Kids having characteristics they couldn't possibly have learned from those with whom they share them. It's uncanny. I'm convinced that if you want to know what my father was like, look at my youngest child. He's very different from his two older brothers as my father was different from the rest of his family. And in the same ways-- studious, indifferent to sports (in Boston! Holy shit!). It's definitely not environment. We'll all be watching a game (even my wife) and he'll go read history or something.
- elliekelly 8y agoYou should watch the movie Three Identical Strangers. It's a documentary about triplets adopted into three different families.
- dhimes 8y agoThanks for the tip- I'll check it out.
- dennisgorelik 8y ago--- https://www.latimes.com/entertainment/movies/la-et-mn-three-identical-strangers-documentary-20180702-story.html https://www.latimes.com/entertainment/movies/la-et-mn-three-... In 1995, after a struggle with mental illness, Galland committed suicide. That same year, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Lawrence Wright published an article in the New Yorker shedding light on a disturbing psychological study. The scientific inquiry, masterminded by prominent psychologist Dr. Peter Neubauer and his Child Development Center, set out to answer the fundamental question of nature vs. nurture. Through the now-defunct Louise Wise adoption agency, an unknown number of twins and triplets were placed in different homes and secretly observed for years by researchers who diligently made home visits. (Parents were told these visits were standard, to track the adoptive children’s progress.) ---
- creep 8y agoMy dad isn't in my life except for one meeting each at the ages of 9 and 16, but it is surprising how similar we are. He's almost pathologically obsessed with aliens (as am I) and he has a passionate HAM radio hobby. HAM radio is something I've always been interested in, but I'm young and in a math degree and I haven't had time to explore that too much, but before math I was considering electrical engineering. His smile is the same as mine. I look exactly like his sister. For a while I thought maybe my mom had stolen me from the hospital and we were unrelated, because I am 100% my father's child. He also has autism, which he apparently passed on to me.
- gnulinux 8y agoThis really depresses me since I'm also very similar to my dad and I do not want to be.
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- tkxxx7 8y agoyou don't have to subject yourself to his limitations. Maybe, being so similar, you can better learn from his mistakes.