I probably wouldn't say that, but I'd suggest that either you or your ops person could do with learning a bit of empathy and better communicating what problems

I probably wouldn't say that, but I'd suggest that either you or your ops person could do with learning a bit of empathy and better communicating what problems you're each trying to solve. Someone who actually gets the concept of devops (the collaboration between dev and ops) should be able to articulate why they're asking for particular things to be done, and what benefits will come from it in terms of reliability and being able to analyse issues as they come up. Unless the ops person on the other side of this conversation is really bad they're unlikely to be asking you to do things just for the sake of it - there'll be a good reason, just as you have your reasons for wanting to do things your way. Devops is all about finding a middle ground between those two places, and improving life for everyone involved.