>Sometimes they are actively used against you Absolutely. I've termed this emotional gaslighting, where I'm frustrated about something and bring it up and the

>Sometimes they are actively used against you Absolutely. I've termed this emotional gaslighting, where I'm frustrated about something and bring it up and the family member I'm frustrated with deflects or points the finger right back at me as if they're the ones that were frustrated all along. This leaves me doubting my frustration as if my feelings weren't ever valid at all, which I suspect had a huge hand in my intense anxiety that I've fortunately largely overcome.