I agree. It's impossible to fix these type of problems with advice. Deep problems of identity. "Be comfortable with yourself" is advice that is technically tru

I agree. It's impossible to fix these type of problems with advice. Deep problems of identity. "Be comfortable with yourself" is advice that is technically true, but to get from here to there, so to speak, requires putting yourself into a messy, vulnerable personal relationship with another human being, who cares about you enough to break through and force you to care in turn. "Advice" is useless when it comes to deep interpersonal problems like this. Also, you can give easily advice like this without having ever fixed yourself: Just repeat platitudes.