> When someone does engage me though, and starts talking about something that interests me, I'll talk their damn ear off. I catch myself talking too much about

> When someone does engage me though, and starts talking about something that interests me, I'll talk their damn ear off. I catch myself talking too much about stuff I'm interested in, it doesn't help. I have to rein myself in. Cut myself off, ask the other person a question. Also, I don't bring up computers or tech unless they did. Turns out it's a niche subject. > I've had dates text me after the fact with shitty comments like I was so self obsessed and never once asked them any questions about themselves and I'm like, you brought up a topic and we had an ongoing DIALOGUE for 3 hours where we both said quite a bit... Talking at great length about something you're interested in isn't fun for the other person, in general, even if they're interested in it too. Perhaps try this, ask them about what they like, then get them to talk about that. Ask followup questions. Remember the answers next time you see them as best you can. "There's this place that serves your favourite pizza, do you want to go there" or "Hey, isn't that dog one of your favourite breeds?", or "How did you get on at the climbing gym the other day"?? Google "How to talk to people". > I don't know, I just don't get people I guess. I'm 40, it took me practice to get to the point I did, and I still have to work at it. It has been rewarding so far. > I suspect a lot of it comes down to I'm simply not interested in what many people are. Yes, me neither. I have (self diagnosed) aspergers and/or ADHD. I have to make a game of social stuff, though not to the point that I'm treating people like toys or subjects. > I'm just like yeahhh no clue. I just ask questions. Just simple ones, not argueing, or even discussion. Just exploratory. Even if it's something I don't care about. "So, what was it like at your college", "If you had your time agian would you choose the same place", "Do you stay in contact with people from that time?" etc. It doesn't matter if you're not interested in the answers. YMMV, good luck.