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"Ugly" needs to broken out by category: ugly on the outside? Ugly personality? Ugly mental illness? Ugly by car accident or Ugly by DNA? Ugly not intelligent
by maeon3 16y ago
"Ugly" needs to broken out by category: ugly on the outside? Ugly personality? Ugly mental illness? Ugly by car accident or Ugly by DNA? Ugly not intelligent?
The dating game in this country is broken, as evidence I point at the 50%+ divorce rate.
I propose a better solution. One where a dating website has "ground rules" that if you break, you get three strikes and your out. Rules like you have to respond to the suitor with a reason why you are incompatible. Rules like if you are chronically offending other people, you get restricted rights. If you are beautiful and get hundreds of messages and don't respond to any, you get removed from search. If a suitor comes up, fitting all your criteria for a date, and you don't like them, and can't quote a reason why you don't like them, you get a emblem on your profile that says: "Profile criteria inaccurate, this person doesn't have any idea what they want". Which would encourage one to actually put down what they want in the mate, instead of the fluff that women/men actually put down.
This article describes many of the failings of the current dating website methodology and how it could be improved:
Hi, I want to meet 17.6% of you:
http://interviews.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/02/19/1419207 http://interviews.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/02/19/14192...
- xyzzyz 16y ago> The dating game in this country is broken, as evidence I point at the 50%+ divorce rate. Dating? I'd rather say, marriage.
- ergo98 16y ago"The dating game in this country is broken, as evidence I point at the 50%+ divorce rate." That stat is always brought up as proof of the failure of marriage. To me it validates marriage. Seriously, if you told a computing engine that two people committed to each other (often when young), and they always had the option of saying adieu, and asked what percentage would over the entirety of their lives, it would probably estimate somewhere in the 100% range of people wouldn't stick it out. Just look at the evidence: How many people stick to anything they commit to, much less something with a commitment often greater than 60 years. If almost half of marriages remain, that is just shockingly high.
- dlytle 16y agoMy guess is a not insignificant chunk of that 50% is people being willing to stay in an unhappy marriage because the social, legal,and financial consequences of divorce are so destructive.
- dionidium 16y agoThat number is an overestimation, anyway, partly because of how it is usually arrived at: http://divorcelawyersknoxville.net/true-divorce-statistics-how-to-understand-the-divorce-rate.html http://divorcelawyersknoxville.net/true-divorce-statistics-h...
- WillyF 16y agoThe divorce rate is now at 40% and declining according to Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce#United_States http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce#United_States
- TamDenholm 16y agoPersonally I'd attribute that to less people getting married. But that's just a guess.