Expectations. I think Haunted believed it would be easy to have it all. >But your concept of yourself makes no sense. You got it from a rom-com. Bingo. Everyt

Expectations. I think Haunted believed it would be easy to have it all. >But your concept of yourself makes no sense. You got it from a rom-com. Bingo. Everything is a trade-off. On top of that, our best-laid schemes often go wrong. Sometimes years or decades of sacrifice to a career, relationship, or family makes one worse off, not better. I don't know if a perfect system exists for living one's life but here's a nugget or two - 1) Love is a choice, not an emotional state (learned by watching my Dad.) 2) Reassess often. 3) Don't fear changing things, including yourself. 4) Most people will die having achieved little that others would consider worthy of praise. That includes the others. 5) Having lived at all is something 99.99999999+% (by mass) of the Universe will never experience. Though maybe I'm wrong here - stars, nebulae, and galaxies may actually be alive for all we know.