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> And with men I date, I feel pressure to make something of the relationship too soon (move in, get married, “I have to have kids in a couple of years”; fun tim
by vinceguidry 8y ago
> And with men I date, I feel pressure to make something of the relationship too soon (move in, get married, “I have to have kids in a couple of years”; fun times!).
I think most, if not all problems people have that aren't resource-driven (not making enough money to live) boil down to lack of ability to enjoy the present moment. And maybe even the resource-driven ones as well. If people could just learn how to relax, appreciate what you do have, realize it could be a lot worse, smell the roses, then they could get centered and plan for the future more effectively.
But instead many people just get caught in these catch-22s where they're depressed over not being where they want to be. But there's always somewhere you're going to want to be, you're never going to be 100% perfectly content with everything. Discontent isn't the worst thing in the world, but people let it sabotage their well-being and mental health. So sad.
- bitcoinmoney 8y agoTrue that. I read an article last week about the rohingya genocide currently in Myanmar. The article centered about a guy who suffered throughout his life. Basically going back and forth because he has no citizenship. From childhood to fatherhood. His only hope was his intelligent daughter and she was just raped and killed by the soldiers... and I get stressed because I don’t get enough s. Talk about perspective. Being in A first world country I’m already living like a king compared to 90% of the world.
- earthwrldshaman 8y agoAgree, all of these thoughts of hypothetical's that instantiate people's continuous internal dialogue take away, especially, from the beauty and mystery of connection with another person. Everyone has this 'agenda'(whether conscious or not) that, as some sort of psychic mold, must fit and restrict the reality of the present moment.