I am not sure if this is what you are looking for, but 'Mindset' by Carol Dweck is a good book. It talks about 'Growth Mindset' and how parents can inculcate t

I am not sure if this is what you are looking for, but 'Mindset' by Carol Dweck is a good book. It talks about 'Growth Mindset' and how parents can inculcate this in their kids as opposed to the "fixed " mindset approach. Another book that I would suggest is called 'Constructive living' by David Reynolds. Although that book is not about Raising kids per se, I am sure you can tweak some aspects of the book's teachings (for ex: Not allowing how we 'feel' determine our actions/lack of it) can be helpful when the toddler grows up.