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Taken from your link: > When something isn't good, you needn't pretend that it is. But don't be gratuitously negative. The comment you replied to is accurate

Taken from your link: > When something isn't good, you needn't pretend that it is. But don't be gratuitously negative. The comment you replied to is accurate and not gratuitously negative.

xeromal 8y ago
The OP said they wanted to cry and crying is reserved for pretty sad things. Seems over-the-top negative to me
- austincheney 8y ago
  This is bad and nobody is required to pretend otherwise. Sensitivity to a critical opinion doesn't make the opinion a form of attack or hostility.
  - jakelazaroff 8y ago
    Saying something makes you want to cry isn't constructive criticism. It's just mean.
  - tomhoward 8y ago
    Are you really sure you want to carry on swinging over the importance of HN accepting harsh criticism of someone's wedding site? I mean, it's a _wedding_ site. Maybe just let it go?
    - austincheney 8y ago
      It is a policy violation or it isn't. You can't have it both ways because of sympathy confusion. At any rate, it doesn't matter. A moderator has already interjected.
      - dang 8y ago
        Why not just err on the side of sympathy? It's not hard, and what little information is lost that way doesn't matter so much.
        austincheney 8y ago
        I live in a world where the best of intentions is often responsible for entitlement and cataclysmic policy decisions. This has shaped the mode of thought amongst myself and my peers to what we call: bottom line up front, which is a cruel form of honesty. I appreciate that not everybody can encounter such thought forming experiences, but you are correct. The nature of deferring towards sympathy is the hardest challenge people in my circumstance face in adjusting from one world to another when the adjustment is required.
dang 8y ago
Reasonable people interpret these things differently, but I'd say there were two gratuitous negativities: its snark, and venting an internet trope like "bloat on the web". I don't like bloat on the web either, but we've all heard countless rants about this already, and it's mean-spirited to haul out the artillery in this context.

Taken from your link: > When something isn't good, you needn't pretend that it is. But don't be gratuitously negative. The comment you replied to is accurate and not gratuitously negative.

xeromal 8y ago

The OP said they wanted to cry and crying is reserved for pretty sad things. Seems over-the-top negative to me

austincheney 8y ago
This is bad and nobody is required to pretend otherwise. Sensitivity to a critical opinion doesn't make the opinion a form of attack or hostility.
- jakelazaroff 8y ago
  Saying something makes you want to cry isn't constructive criticism. It's just mean.
- tomhoward 8y ago
  Are you really sure you want to carry on swinging over the importance of HN accepting harsh criticism of someone's wedding site? I mean, it's a _wedding_ site. Maybe just let it go?
  - austincheney 8y ago
    It is a policy violation or it isn't. You can't have it both ways because of sympathy confusion. At any rate, it doesn't matter. A moderator has already interjected.
    - dang 8y ago
      Why not just err on the side of sympathy? It's not hard, and what little information is lost that way doesn't matter so much.
      - austincheney 8y ago
        I live in a world where the best of intentions is often responsible for entitlement and cataclysmic policy decisions. This has shaped the mode of thought amongst myself and my peers to what we call: bottom line up front, which is a cruel form of honesty. I appreciate that not everybody can encounter such thought forming experiences, but you are correct. The nature of deferring towards sympathy is the hardest challenge people in my circumstance face in adjusting from one world to another when the adjustment is required.

dang 8y ago

Reasonable people interpret these things differently, but I'd say there were two gratuitous negativities: its snark, and venting an internet trope like "bloat on the web". I don't like bloat on the web either, but we've all heard countless rants about this already, and it's mean-spirited to haul out the artillery in this context.