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> The idea of alimony is closer to “I sacrificed my future income for my husband's by the division of domestic vs. external work in marriage”. I'd argue that's

> The idea of alimony is closer to “I sacrificed my future income for my husband's by the division of domestic vs. external work in marriage”. I'd argue that's even worse, as it encourages economic classes to 'marry amongst oneselves; don't relate with lesser people's And that very statement also packs in the idea the woman is some married domestic servant. And increasingly that is not true. My wife and I share the work. Equally. We both work. Right now I make more, but before this job, she made more. And now, on my extra salary, she's attending Harvard. Soon enough, she'll make more than I. And the sooner these gender roles are busted thoroughly for both men and women, the better we all will do.

dragonwriter 8y ago
> I'd argue that's even worse, as it encourages economic classes to 'marry amongst oneselves; don't relate with lesser people's Well, no, if you are interested in minimizing alimony, it encourages working to maximize your partners income and income potential during marriage (in addition to working to avoid divorce.) > And that very statement also packs in the idea the woman is some married domestic servant. No, it implies that marriage often involves a division of responsibility and/or a trade-offs where one person's income earning potential is sacrificed for the others; subordination (master/servant) rather than co-equal status is irrelevant. > And increasingly that is not true. Yes, it's less true over time that wives are sacrificing more income potential in marriage in favor of their husbands, as the old traditional division of marital roles becomes less absolutely dominant. And increasingly fewer women and more men get spousal support, which reflects that. > My wife and I share the work. Equally. We both work. Right now I make more, but before this job, she made more. And now, on my extra salary, she's attending Harvard. Soon enough, she'll make more than I. Good for you. I'm not sure what you think this has to do with anything, since we aren't discussing who should or shouldn't get spousal support in your hypothetical divorce.

dragonwriter 8y ago

> I'd argue that's even worse, as it encourages economic classes to 'marry amongst oneselves; don't relate with lesser people's Well, no, if you are interested in minimizing alimony, it encourages working to maximize your partners income and income potential during marriage (in addition to working to avoid divorce.) > And that very statement also packs in the idea the woman is some married domestic servant. No, it implies that marriage often involves a division of responsibility and/or a trade-offs where one person's income earning potential is sacrificed for the others; subordination (master/servant) rather than co-equal status is irrelevant. > And increasingly that is not true. Yes, it's less true over time that wives are sacrificing more income potential in marriage in favor of their husbands, as the old traditional division of marital roles becomes less absolutely dominant. And increasingly fewer women and more men get spousal support, which reflects that. > My wife and I share the work. Equally. We both work. Right now I make more, but before this job, she made more. And now, on my extra salary, she's attending Harvard. Soon enough, she'll make more than I. Good for you. I'm not sure what you think this has to do with anything, since we aren't discussing who should or shouldn't get spousal support in your hypothetical divorce.