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There's an old adage that successful people surround themselves with success. It's all about cohort - if you don't have other friends who are pushing themselve
by cik 8y ago
There's an old adage that successful people surround themselves with success. It's all about cohort - if you don't have other friends who are pushing themselves the way you are, it will be very, very, hard. It doesn't matter if you're in tech and your friend is in gardening, what matters is the shared struggle, and dreams. It helps knowing you're in a boat others have been in before.
Spouses/partners can understand and support - but (most) haven't been through it, and there's just a different conversation that can be had with others who have. That's not a negative, it's a reminder that it really does take all types.
- IloveHN84 8y ago100% agree. I don't have any friends that pushed themselves to start an IT company and being successful. I only know people who claimed to do the best but failed miserably within the first year of their start-up. I made also failures in my startup as well, but we closed because we were approaching the zero budget and without having real customers. Partners who are not in IT cannot fully understand the struggle of running an IT company.
- softawre 8y agoIt's interesting to me that you categorize your failures differently than the "people you know".
- rokov 8y agoThis is what I have been going through for a long time. Everyone around me goes to their 9-5, so I barely even talk about my work anymore with them (even though I love it). You get used to it. I have tried finding people that are doing the same thing as me but with no luck.
- navidkhn1 8y agoWell, you found one just now.
- nomadtwin 8y agoIf you have a little bit of freedom (money and job-wise) and your country (passport) allows you to travel - try to join a digital nomad trip. NOT one of those "life coach, ebook selling things". You'll be part of a group of like-minded people from around the world. I joined Hacker Paradise some years ago and it not only gave me valuable directions but tons of people that would understand what a Trello is and you can share struggles and stories.
- lotsofpulp 8y agoThis is why it's important to grow up in the right zip code, do well in school, score high enough on standardized tests, get into the best universities. If you want to maximize your chances of getting to the top, the best way to do that is to know the right people.
- adreamingsoul 8y agoThat’s one approach of many, and ultimately depends on the individual.
- lotsofpulp 8y agoThat's why I wrote "maximizing chances". Life offers no guarantees, all we can do is try to optimize our choices so the probability of success (however one defines it) is maximized. The data I've seen suggest that knowing the right (well heeled, hard working, smart, etc) people plays a huge role in building a business.
- iagooar 8y agoGreat advice! That's like saying that it's super easy to become rich. It just takes 2 easy steps: Step 1. Be born into a rich family. Step 2: Get inheritance cash.
- gowld 8y agoDon't be so morbid. If you have a rich family, you can get plenty of capital without anyone dying.
- adrianmonk 8y agoThey're not saying it's easy. They're saying some people have a huge head start in the race.
- decasteve 8y agoPick your parents well.
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- malvosenior 8y agoYour spouse may not be able to understand everything but if they don't support you, your life is going to be hell. Sadly, it's rare to see a founders spouse happily take the roller coaster ride with them for the long haul.
- coldtea 8y ago>here's an old adage that successful people surround themselves with success. It's all about cohort - if you don't have other friends who are pushing themselves the way you are, it will be very, very, hard. Or, you know, riches come to riches, which amount to the same thing. People born in slums don't have as many changes to "surround themselves with success". For one, they wouldn't be welcome by most successful people.